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Okay, so from time to time we all can catch ourselves lying - white lie, exageration lie, avoidant lie, or needy lie and for some vicious lie...
What is it about us as people, as a society that produces such frequent lying? We are obviously taught from a young age that lying is wrong, but then we are shown how to do it or when to do it...
I've decided through recent events that my husband's pay off for lying is attention...just like a child will act out to get attention, whether negative or not, he lies. He told me white lies about his past or about his present not to be mean but to manipulate himself into beleive he was the guy he was selling...
He told me exageration lies, again, to feel like he is this imagined guy he wants to be, and the pay-off to keep it going was that I beleived him. He now tells me avoidant lies to try and keep this 'imagined guy' alive in some sick way...and I beleive him because I really want the guy he sold to me and he lied about his grandpa's severity because he needs attention and all the other lies aren't working out for him so well anymore so 'pity' is the reach...
Am I making any sense or rambling?
Can you identify your lies? Or the lies you accept? What do you think about all of it?
Possibly, quite possibly I have simply lost my marbles for good....
What is it about us as people, as a society that produces such frequent lying? We are obviously taught from a young age that lying is wrong, but then we are shown how to do it or when to do it...
I've decided through recent events that my husband's pay off for lying is attention...just like a child will act out to get attention, whether negative or not, he lies. He told me white lies about his past or about his present not to be mean but to manipulate himself into beleive he was the guy he was selling...
He told me exageration lies, again, to feel like he is this imagined guy he wants to be, and the pay-off to keep it going was that I beleived him. He now tells me avoidant lies to try and keep this 'imagined guy' alive in some sick way...and I beleive him because I really want the guy he sold to me and he lied about his grandpa's severity because he needs attention and all the other lies aren't working out for him so well anymore so 'pity' is the reach...
Am I making any sense or rambling?
Can you identify your lies? Or the lies you accept? What do you think about all of it?
Possibly, quite possibly I have simply lost my marbles for good....
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
This is obviously how he was able to 'get' what he needed or wanted as a child/teenager and it just continued on into adulthood.
i think the lies we tell ourselves are the most insidious and the only ones whose truth we can determine.
sometimes we get so caught up in another's crap that we can't see where we ourselves need to change.
look inside, it's all right there.
and i'm not saying that to be some kind of swami-chanting-zen person either.
it's just true. well, true for me. that's the only truth i know. (when i can accept it).
now, WHO has lost her marbles?
ha!
xo
i'm looking at me and it isn't that i don't like what i see; i'm just confused by it.
xo
*chuckle*
good idea - maybe a lil' too much face time that my features are getting a lil' blury...