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Okay, so from time to time we all can catch ourselves lying - white lie, exageration lie, avoidant lie, or needy lie and for some vicious lie...
What is it about us as people, as a society that produces such frequent lying? We are obviously taught from a young age that lying is wrong, but then we are shown how to do it or when to do it...
I've decided through recent events that my husband's pay off for lying is attention...just like a child will act out to get attention, whether negative or not, he lies. He told me white lies about his past or about his present not to be mean but to manipulate himself into beleive he was the guy he was selling...
He told me exageration lies, again, to feel like he is this imagined guy he wants to be, and the pay-off to keep it going was that I beleived him. He now tells me avoidant lies to try and keep this 'imagined guy' alive in some sick way...and I beleive him because I really want the guy he sold to me and he lied about his grandpa's severity because he needs attention and all the other lies aren't working out for him so well anymore so 'pity' is the reach...
Am I making any sense or rambling?
Can you identify your lies? Or the lies you accept? What do you think about all of it?
Possibly, quite possibly I have simply lost my marbles for good....
What is it about us as people, as a society that produces such frequent lying? We are obviously taught from a young age that lying is wrong, but then we are shown how to do it or when to do it...
I've decided through recent events that my husband's pay off for lying is attention...just like a child will act out to get attention, whether negative or not, he lies. He told me white lies about his past or about his present not to be mean but to manipulate himself into beleive he was the guy he was selling...
He told me exageration lies, again, to feel like he is this imagined guy he wants to be, and the pay-off to keep it going was that I beleived him. He now tells me avoidant lies to try and keep this 'imagined guy' alive in some sick way...and I beleive him because I really want the guy he sold to me and he lied about his grandpa's severity because he needs attention and all the other lies aren't working out for him so well anymore so 'pity' is the reach...
Am I making any sense or rambling?
Can you identify your lies? Or the lies you accept? What do you think about all of it?
Possibly, quite possibly I have simply lost my marbles for good....
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
This is obviously how he was able to 'get' what he needed or wanted as a child/teenager and it just continued on into adulthood.
i think the lies we tell ourselves are the most insidious and the only ones whose truth we can determine.
sometimes we get so caught up in another's crap that we can't see where we ourselves need to change.
look inside, it's all right there.
and i'm not saying that to be some kind of swami-chanting-zen person either.
it's just true. well, true for me. that's the only truth i know. (when i can accept it).
now, WHO has lost her marbles?
ha!
xo
i'm looking at me and it isn't that i don't like what i see; i'm just confused by it.
xo
*chuckle*
good idea - maybe a lil' too much face time that my features are getting a lil' blury...