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sober addict husband pulling away--why?

deleted_user
deleted_user
My addict husband has been thru rehab and now home again for 3 weeks. He's been attending meetings etc but seems to be pulling away from me emotionally and physically. I try to talk to him about this but he says he still loves me and is attracted to me but is just not interested in intimacy because of his prior drug use. I don't know what to think of this! I keep wondering if there is something more to this or if it's part of his recovery. He's been clean now for 54 days and he says there is some type of post withdrawal thing addicts may experience anytime from 30-90 days of sobriety. Does anyone know anything about this or where I can get information on it to better understand what is happening here? Afraid I'm losing my marriage to recovery now instead of coke. Please help!
mgs1
mgs1
Google PAWS. Post Addiction Withdrawal Symdrone. Post Acute Withdrawal Symdrone. It will give you a good idea of what he and you are facing. Second I would suggest talking to a therapist. Many things could be contributing to this, including any medications he may be on. Or even the healtier and cleaner he gets, you and he may find there were or other things in the relationship that need to be addressed.
Good Luck. STAY STRONG.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm going through the exact same thing, I really think my husband is feeling a lot of self loathing right now, about his relapse and what it has done to our family, that it will take time for him to get through his PAWS. However, I've been through so many relapses with my husband, I'm getting used to this process. Stay strong, and know you have a lot of support out there!
deleted_user
deleted_user
No, I have no frame of reference. My desire was heightned due to being clean. I didn't initiate intimacy due to shame over past actions. But I did't say no.An addict many times needs to find himself and be comfortable with just himself before reigniting a old relationship. The relationship must be grounded on solid ground, totally not contingent on sex if it has any chance of surviving certain low spots such as what you are experiencing.
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