Hello everyone! I been reading many of the discussions and I am so happy that everyone here really supports one another. Well I have been dating a crack addict (he says he smoke primos) for almost a year.

For the first months he would occasionally smoke a joint or two. He never acted strange or different. I figure I would know since I am a child of a Heroin Addict and every one in my family (aunts uncles) have abuse and still use drugs. I thought I would know the signs. Perhaps he was not using during the first 5 months.

Then one particular day he was gone for the whole day, he lied and says he went to the Gym and later returned to my house saying he was out with friends and they smoked 8 Primos. I could have die. But then I thought about our generation I went to college with several friends who have done Primos and I thought, well maybe he just wanted to kick it and have fun. (Sometimes, me and college friends go to the bar and drink and get drunk and have fun.) So I thought I understood perhaps where he may be coming from. He said that was his first time doing it in about 8 months.

Well its several months later and he have done it about 5 more times. It like he binge once a month and will spend his whole paycheck. Is this common? He also mentioned that the last few months have been really out of hand. He said that he could not control it. So he went into treatment. He is currently going to meetings and seeks all kinds of help. During these month he have lost his apartment because he spent his check and now he is staying in a Recovery Home. I think the recovery home is really not a recovery home Let say this I was a social worker for 10 years and I am familiar with group home setting situations. However, they have rules and are feed there but they are not monitored closely. Prior to him reaching his 30 days he ran out and got high again because he temp job ended. Now he is out of work and brags about being sober for 30 days I am thinking to myself that is because he doesnt have any money. I am a happy that he have 30 day in but this could because he have no money. But he claims he can get high if he chooses to. Is this true? He can get high without money? I really dont have questions; I just need insight and hurt, confuse and feel like I have no one to talk to this about.

I have put up a wall and I have my boundaries. He has tons of respect for me and he understands my position. I really like the guy and prior to me meeting him he would always read the Bible (a cover up perhaps) but now I get all my strength from reading the Bible. I thank God for him being center in my life because now I am back spiritual incline. We go to church together every weekend We pray every night he get upset with me because I dont want to go to the meeting with him. I choose not to go because my mother friends sometimes are there and I am just embarrassed that I might see someone I know and then they will know I am with an Addict. I would really support him if I felt that he was 100% serious. I think he trying to get right but I believe that when he land another job he will again smoke crack. Sometime I think he smoke the pipe. Is there a way you could tell? I only say that because the people I knew who smoke priomos have not fell off that back. My aunt smoke Primos every three months and she still have a job, money, car, kids, and house. My aunt say she smoke because that what she like to do. I welcome any commons and your thoughts.