How do you say no...
NO!!!! that's how. She's not your friend if she offers you Coke. No one in their right mind would offer a friend something that could kill them. Move if you have to... sobriety should be your number 1 goal. If you need to tell her that and ask her to stay away from you. Then so be it. You know you need to take control of your life.
Once an addict always and addict. Go to a meeting, get a sponsor.

tangel im in the same postion as you. like tonight i took it again and i just could say no. i no its hard but people like us, we have to try and say no x

it is hard to say no, i thought after being clean since june i could easily say no. i cracked on the fri night and ended up getting high.

stay away from people who do it.

I struggle with those exact issues. I truly have the desire to stop because every time I use now I hate the way I feel. It used to be fun but now it just turns me into a complete waste of space. Yet I constantly give in. It's a very scary feeling to feel so out of control of my own mind. So I guess I can't personally provide my own advice, but I wanted you to know that you're not alone.

my neighbor stopped by today too...

My experience is that I can NOT talk to or hang out with old friends who still use. I must surround myself with people in recovery who can be my strength when I have none. I have no control over how much I use once I start and I'm not confused about that today.

Change people, places, and things. Period.

ask your friend sincerely to NOT offer it and to keep it away from you

i can be around it now and not do it, but it takes a while...

just tell the people in your life whats up!

I have to say that you can't stay clean if your around it period. Your brain will not allow you to say no..it's addicted to it. Time to be honest with yourself and give up the relationship with this neighbor..DO NOT GO THERE PERIOD!!

Lots of good advice from averyone. I don't know if I can add anything more. Like others on the board. Iget to an na meeting. I also don't try and kid myself that I can be around certain people, places and things. I put recovery first as I have learnt that when I dont I am leaving myself wide open to relapse. I know that is hard when there are kids invoved but I just think if I dont I could end up losing my kids or they could end up losing me. Good luck.

For me I had to make new friends and hang out in new (clean) place's take yourself out of the picture it's hard but you get your life back clean and sober

willing to go to any lengths to stay sober...

Just be strong for yourself. Stay clear of it. Dealing with a husband thats on the drug it hard but your srtonger that it is. You made a life before drugs and you can do it again. Stay strong for yourself no matter what. You are worth it....

The few days clean as we all should know are the most crucial during recovery. It's not easy either way, just avoid you're neighbor altogether. Don't take me the wrong way, but, you honestly don't want to stay clean if you keep associating with your neighbor. People, places, and things...oh! how true that is. For me, it's places. The best thing to say, in your case, is basically. NO