I was with my sons father for 41/2 years. We left him last mothers day. I love him very much and I was always telling him to choose and he always chose the drinking and cocain. I sole custody and he got no rights at all not even visitation. He is the best person in the world when he is not using but it is all around him even the house we bought came with addicts on both sides. He did not see my son since last june until 2 weeks ago I told him he can see him but I need to be there and he cant take him or go to his house that were the roommate is a addict. He came for 3 hours on the first day and 1 on the next then we did not hear from him for almost 2 weeks. He says he still loves us which I believe. Do you think the reality of it was to much for him ? What is the best way from a addicts point of view is the best way to have him come to the good side. Are we just out of sight out of mind. Is it good to see him once a week and show him the kindness we have or will he just take advantage of that. I feel if he wanted to see us or talk to us bad enough he would find a way. I am truly simpathetic to the disease. But what is the best way to have him want to try. Or should I just lay it on the line. Please help When your a addict what does it take to make you want to change.
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