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Surgery 12/12...Overwhelmed....ARGH!!!

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I am scheduled for my anterior cervical disectomy with fusion @ c6-c7 surgery on Wednesday 12/12. I want to get it done and over with but I have been dealing with a very emotional situation(my son passed away 11.2.07 from injuries sustained in an automobile accident). I am worried about my mental state regarding my surgery. I wonder if I should put this off(but I really want this over with)? Another part of me thinks it might be nice to have a sort of distraction, but at times it is completely OVERWHELMING!! I am scared of having the surgery(I already cancelled this surgery last summer 6/07)The appt. with the surgeon was scheduled prior to the accident, and he is the best surgeon in this city(very hard to get appt.) I am confused, but going forward with surgery as I just want to get it done and not sit around and worry when they tell me the date, i.e...tell me surgery is Jan 20, I would worry from now until then. So maybe this is a blessing??, But I really am concerned how much my emotional state relates to my surgery. Any one have any thoughts on this?
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Do it.....get it over with....I get a laser nerve ablation on the 13th and I am also scared too.... but we need to take care of myself. My emotional state is a wreck too...it can't come soon enough and yet I am scared it won't work, and then more bills, and my doc wouldn't help me with meds the other day when I was in 9/10 desperate pain (like right now, resisting the urge to take extra...really hard) the one that is doing the surgery. I know what you are going through, and with your son's death on top of it....I have no idea how hard your day to day life must be......I am just overwhelmed thinking about something like that on top of all this other stuff. I will say prayers tonight/think the best thoughts I can....Go through with it....you may be in pain but it will give you some rest for a while and may help....that is all I know I can hope for.....my love and prayers are with you.
Lesa
Lesa
Mary,you have had so much on your plate.It's no wonder you're feeling overwhelmed by all of it.You'll be in out thoughts and prayers as you move ahead with this.Wishing you the best!Let us know when you can.
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Bless your heart - first, let me say how sorry I am to hear about your son - I was offline for 6 weeks and had no idea - big hugs to you! Second, this surgery has been hanging over your head so to speak for at least 6 months that I know of. I don't think you will ever be more ready than you are now, honey, and there will always be reasons for and against doing it. I have taken care of so many patients who have had this surgery, and while it is no walk in the park, I think they were all glad they did it afterward. you are a careful person, and will follow the doc's orders about taking care of yourself afterward, and I think you will do fine. Everyone here will send many good thoughts, prayers and "no pain" mojo your way. Big hugs and love to you! Star )O(
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Thank you much for your replies.
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Dear Mary, I'm so sorry to hear about your son. If he were able to tell you, I bet he'd want his mom to do whatever it takes to move forward in her life. If that means having that surgery you've been dreading, then to honor him, just do it. You've got the best doctor and it's been something that's been indicated for your situation. Like Star said, it won't be a walk in the park, but I'm willing to bet you'll be so relieved when it's over and it may end up being the best thing you've done for yourself in a long time.
I'll be thinking of you and sending you my very best. You've got so many people in your corner who truly want you to find relief through all of this.
Good luck to you, Mary.
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Mary im so for the loss of your son i know this has to be very hard for you.I will be praying for you during the surgery and the holidays.
penny59
penny59
mary i am so so sorry for your loss.you have been putting this surgery off for so long and dealing with the pain.now you have an appt to finally get this taken care of and i think you should move forward .i think you son would say to move forward and have it done also.i will keep you in my prayers. hugs ..marie
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I think you'll never be more ready than you already are, hard as that sounds. I remember the last time, and it was a bit worse than this time as far as the number of posts you put up about it. So I really think you're more ready than you were the last time. I think you should go for it. Get it over with. I'll be praying that the Lord Jesus gives you a quick and smooth recovery.
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Let's hope we get Mary back today or tomorrow for a quick hello. Maybe another round of prayers will do the trick.

Doug/Ouch
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(((((Mary))))) I had a very similar situation regarding my surgery and bereavement. I lost my mom in January and had my car accident in Feb. It took me awhile before I was mentally able to get it together, find a new doc and make that huge decission of having surgery. It was a quick process for me...finding my surgeon and gettting into an OR. I only had about 3 days prior to surgery, but all I could think about was my Mom and how much I needed her there next to me to hold my hand. I am so so sorry for your loss. I do hope that surgery was a success for you and your pain is lessened!!! Hope to see you back here soon for a good update...lots of hugs!!
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Had my post op visit today(surgery 12/12) and it went great. I have no restrictions. He even removed the collar. I have great range of motion said both my neurosurgeon and the pain dr.(made me feel really good)...I am in a lot of pain in my shoulder blade on the right hand side and the back of my neck. I drove today, and just did a few extra things that were probably pushing it.
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Wonderful to hear it.

Doug/Ouch
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
Oh Mary, I am so sorry about your son, I wish I had the answer for you.
Rocky7
Rocky7
dear mary ,im so glad your surgery is all finnished and you can now recover.im sorry to hear about your loss ,two major dificulties to cope with.will be thinking of you and praying you will soon be free of pain.with love ,sharonxxx
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