Chronic Pain Support Group

Physicians and professionalsdefine pain as chronic if it lasts longer than three to six months and is persistent. It's distinct from acute pain that is a direct result of injury or trauma. This support group is dedicated to those suffering from chronic pain. Discuss treatments that have worked for you, find advice for your specific experience, and find support. You're not...

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What is the secret to getting your pain specialist to give you the damn medication you need? I think my constant worrying that he is going to "cut me off" suddenly just makes my anxiety, and therefore, my pain even worse. I don't want to jump around from doctor to doctor, and I absolutely HATE calling his office and talking to his bitchy nurse who says she will have him callme (and never does). I am at the end of my rope. Five years into my chronic pain problems, My 17 year old son was killed in a house fire while spending the night at a friend's house. Then my GP doctor dumped me without explanation, and my pain doc cut me off my meds. My shrink put me on Cymbalta, and miraculously I had no pain for about a year....but now it's back, 10 times worse that before. I have 3 ruptured lumbar discs, spinal stenosis, fibromyalgia, sever IBS, erosions in my esophagus, and chronic abdominal pain. All the sudden, I am a "psych case"...the grieving Mom....so what was my excuse for my pain all those years before my grief? I could use some advice on how to convince or find s doctor that will medicate me properly. Thanks!
ZAZAS
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Oh yeah, natzi nurse and the doctor game. Played this before. I really don't know what to tell you, does your therapist or shrink recommend pain mangement, or medication. I was referred to a new one by mine a years ago. Maybe you could try that route. God Bless you, what a terrible tragedy for you and your family.
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I'm bumping this up to the top for others who would know better than I to respond.
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There is no secret at all. You go in with copies of all tests and film you have. Be calm, tell the truth and pray your doctor helps you.

I wish there a better answer, but every doctor has his own criteria, there is no set course of treatment, like there is for other illnesses.

Ouch
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I played that game to. I think doc's are afraid of law suits and be liable if a patient becomes hooked on pain meds. I well try talking to and lay on the table and start look for and other doc who well support you in al treat for chronic pain. I sorry for your loss and your family in my familys prays. steve
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I am sorry for your loss. In the past, doctors thought that I was faking or saying the pain was worse than it was.

Getting the tests done, having your records, doing pain level journals or charts will help. Also many of us have several doctors on our team. I just keep getting the reports and passing them on to each doctor.
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the only thing I can add to what ouch said is to ask for pain management, not any particular medicine. Just ask for help. Be kind but be honest with them. Thats all I did and my honesty paid off for me. I have MS and suffer severe chronic pain. But if u go in with an attitude then do expect to get meds. Tell them what happened in the past. Lay it all out before ur doc, and let them sort it out. Above al
honesty really works. Hope u get the relief u need.
Morgaine
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There are some good responses, so I will just add that one thing that helped my case was letting the doc know that I wasn't looking for a miracle drug, I was just wanting to be functional to do what my family needed me to do. The doc later told me that the reason he started me on pain meds was that I wasn't expecting a quick "fix".
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Yep seen this done befor unfortunatley :( my advice is change doctors till you get one you can relate too. I look like you typical drug addict and have been judged that way many times but my doctor know EVERYTHING i do and knows me inside out so to speak lol I have never had problems getting my pain killers and other meds im on but i put it down to me going to my own GP who knows my health best and can also see physical proof of pain by muscle spasams ect.
Im an Australian mate and our system is totaly different than over the states or britten.
I have also ruptured my discs and would sugest to get some recent mri and cat scans done and that will show the pysical damage and no doctor with any sence should deny you of pain relif.
Ive been on heavey barbituates ect for the last 4 years but have found all thats happening is i am getting use to the drugs and the pain keeps increaseing.
you have my sympothy bro and best of luck with finding a decent doctor.
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You could do what I've done before--show up at his office. tell his nurse that you're in so much pain that you've got to see him right now, then cry, complain or sit there until he has no other choice than to see you. I know it sounds nuts but almost ten years ago, I was in so much pain, I wanted to literally die. My doctor was understanding but did't truly understand how bad it was until he examined me. But that afternoon, he had me drugged and in the neurosurgeon's office. One MRI later(same day) and they got me some serious meds.

My pain is under better control now and I'm sure the doctor I work for(my former pain specialist) would kill me but this doens work.

Patty
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I felt so alone until I came here. It seems that nurses are not calling back and doctors don't care. Why should the nurse care if the doc doesn't? I was very sick last month and while I was waiting in the room I overheard a nurse ranting about some dumb stupid woman that wouldn't leave her alone. I bet if she acted like she cared in the least she would have not been bothering her. I don't know where the bedside manners have gone. I guess in their wallets that are full from us giving them money just to hear some lame reason or not to be trusted. It seems that it is becoming an epidemic with the medical society. I am not saying that there are not good people out there I just haven't had any.
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Please accept my sympathies for the loss of your' beautiful baby boy. We had a tragic loss of our 26 yr. old son and it is never a loss forgotten. The pain you have is always some of the emotional trauma to add to the physical illnessess. To inform the doctor of the other treatments tried, all that you hae done for yourself and are doing to function in your' daily life. How things are going for you now and how they had been before you became ill. What you hope to accomplish in your' life and your' pain levels for the top of the list discussion with him or her. All records, meds you are already on and totally honesty will get your through the most of the struggle in finding the correct doctor for you. Counceling helps my husband and myself and we have the Emmaus Grief group to support us when we can get the meetings. Compassonate Friends is also a group that supports you in the loss of a child. Perhaps you have heard of these, but it never hurts to get better ideas in the case of grief. My prayers are with you and your' family. God Bless
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