my husband and i were just married in august of 07. He knows how much pain i am in all the time and he seems to understand some of the time. The one thing he cant figure out is why i dont want to have sex all the time. Why i dont want it every single day and what is he doing wrong. most of the time im not in the mood because of the pain and when i am in pain i am really uncomfortable and dont really want to be touched. Im sure everyone here can understand. The other night he started touching me and trying to turn me on and i was in pain and told him no. he didnt freak out but he started acting like it was a big deal. he was saying things like "you dont find me attractive" and "why dont you want me anymore" and even asked me if i was cheating on him!!! i have explained this to him several times that being in pain all day everyday is a real drain on my energy and im very uncomfortable and i dont think he understands. he has this idea of marriage stuck in his head that the first year is all sex and after about 5 years you dont have sex but 2 times a week. it makes me feel even worse that he thinks i am cheating on him because i am not in the mood. i feel like him constantly pawing at me and trying to get in my pants is really taking a toll on our relationship. he makes me feel obligated to have sex with him. what can i do? i have tried talking to him about it. any pointers?
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