My husband and I sometimes think that we would like to have a child (now, by "have" I mean adopt an older child, since my health will not permit me to be pregnant or care for a newborn). The thing is, with my chronic pain I can't imagine how I could possibly care for a child, since often I can barely care for myself physically. Right now, I'm in a flare up of my cp, and so I often cannot do laundrey, cook for myself, or carry heavy bags of groceries. Even when I am in a good stage, the best i can ever lift is 5lbs to 10 lbs (15 maximimum), and I still cannot shovel snow, mow the lawn etc. So- with these limitations, how would I care for a child who needed to be picked up, played with, looked after etc. This makes me think that even adopting an older child would be impossible. But- then I think that Christophe Reeves was able to be a parent (after he got injured)- and he couldn't move at all. SO- I want your thoughts. Do any of you have kids, and if you do, how do you manage? Have any of you been in my situation before? Have any of you not had kids because of your pain, and if so, how did you come to this decision ?
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