I think you'll find that many of us have accepted that pain will always be a part of our lives.For me,finding a level I can tolerate, while still living as normal a life as possible has been key.I've had to accept that there are limatations,but have learned to appreciate all those things I can still do too.I don't think it's giving up.It's a lot less frustrating for me to accept what has been unavoidable.

I think accepting the pain, isn't giving in to it. It's important to acknowledge it. You are in the mad phase---I was right with you two years ago. In my case, it's fibro pain---I dealt with it by researching it and also trying to find a fibro. friendly doctor. I did, but it is a 2 hour drive. I have an appt., Dec. 17. I think this one will be able to help me. Remember, accepting it---isn't giving in to it! (only my opinion---others may disagree) If all else fails tank up on meds. LOL

I do not have pain all the time, or have to be on meds all the time but I know what pain is. I have a dear friend with rheumatoid arthritis who is wheelchair bound & in some type of pain most of the time. She does sooooo much - but also gets down about a lot of things and irritable with those who care for her quite a lot. I had dreadful trouble with my shoulder a short while ago and I must admit it was very difficult to be good tempered all the time as the pain just wore me down. This 'constantly with you' pain must be incredibly hard to come to terms with, perhaps a good old vent does such a world of good at times - safely, in DS - and occasionally with friends and family but spacing out the vents with them !!! I DO not know how this is, but I admire you greatly and wish a magic bullet will arrive at some point to give you relief and rest.....love to you....Cathrynn XX

Acceptance is by no means a death sentence, but the first step towards taking charge of your own pain. At least it was in my case. In the beginning I fought it tooth and nail, even to the point of denial which landed my butt in bed for two weeks because I was going to work thru the pain and do what I wanted. To force yourself to function as you did before CP is not only frustrating, but makes your pain worse. Acceptance allows you to break that cycle and learn to listen to your body. You may have to do things more slowly or in different ways, but you can still do them in many instantces. You learn to pace yourself and rest when you need to.
I think most of us eventually reach that point of acceptance, in our own time and on our own terms, and I think it's a good thing. You can do far more when you know your limitations rather than trying to push thru them.

Sorry there is no magical answer. I do have low level pain almost all the time and much worse pain at times. It is something that I have come to accept and found that before I did that I was driving myself mad with questions of "what if" and "why can't I?" instead of saying to myself "what can I". Once I got to that point life became easier. Not painless, it will never be that, but I learnt to live with my limitations. I look to my dear sister (whose pain I can't even comprehend) and friend's on here who are in just as much pain as she is. They are an inspiration (hi to all my friends) and help me to stop complaining like I used to about things. We all have pain. We have to accept we have pain. And then live within the limits of that pain. Sure we have to do what we can with pain meds etc to make life as good as possible.
I hope that you can find a way to enjoy being close to your kids without it causing you too much pain, because I am sure they will know it, in time. Kids are smart like that. LOL

i am finding my way to acceptance myself feel there is something wrong with me that doctors are not finding

Acceptance does help. It helps you to know your limitations and listen to your body. Are you on any pain pills to help ? marilyn

I've been in counseling for since the pain began. We have learned together (my therapist and I) to call it my grieving process. The old person no longer exists, and I had to grieve for that loss. There are many stages to go through, as in any death of a loved one. It's just your the loved one. The final stage is acceptance. Yes, we're still here and yes we'll always be in pain. But a new person can emerge on the other side. Not blissfully happier or healthier, just different. It's been a fork in the road, and we had to take the rocky one, where we fall often. But that is part of the acceptance. It takes a long time and for me I needed help in order to do it. My prayers are with you in going through this struggle. dee

I think others have given wonderful responses, so I am just going to say that I will be praying for you. I pray you will find the peace that passes understanding.