As I can remember it . LOL I first became sick following a total hysterectomy at the age of 36. Drs insisted I was just depressed as I should feel better instead of worse. So they put me on antidepressants. I struggled through the next few years trying to work. Tried Chiropractors acupunture and several alternatives including PT and private Pt.I left my job as a psychiatric nurse of 10 years thinking I was burnt out. Wrong! For the next year I tried 7 different jobs( none from which I was fired from) with things only getting worse. I was also working at are farm managing house and raising a young daughter at the time. Lazy husband also!I finally had to quit. Worked till I dropped. Husband would not even put food on table for us. So divorce fallowed . A nasty one! I ended in bankrupcy as he farmed out all our animals(and there was a lot) before discovery day.I finally got a diagnosis of cfs and fibromyalgia. I tried to run a home support group but could not keep that up. I later developed Lupus Raynards and now scleredoma. I was just diagnosed with MPD but know I have had it from the start with neck and Tmj problems.I am now 60 years old. The best thing out of it all was that I became a Christian so have a lot of faith. My family to this day including by daughter do not acknowledge my illness and was disowned by family also because I became a christian. There has been many problems over the years and still there are problems.I moved 1200 miles north of family due to their cruelity and the fact that we where in danger from being stalked for two years. Married again up here and it lasted five months at which point he became abusive and I left. Married again in 95 to a good husband who supported and helped me.He was killed in 2003 by a careless driver.I am now on my ow which is hard sometimes. I have learned a lot of patience and that I am stronger than I thought I was over the years. One thing that has been wonderful for me is the fact that I came across DS. My life has changed dramatically just having the wonderful friends I have found here and the support we share.Finacially it remains very difficult but I have made it thus far. LOL. I am currently reading a good book on fibro and myofascial pain which I am finding helpful. I do have a wonderful councillor that I see each week and has been supportive and helpful. None of the Docs where I live admit they no nothing much about any of my illnesses. I live in Canada so don't have to pay for drs visits and hospitalizations but it is a long way to see a specialist from where I live. I am very glad I found this group and am hoping others will follow suite as doug has suggested and give us your stories. marilyn
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