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Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS) describes a sense of exhaustion and post-exertion malaise, even when you have gotten enough rest and sleep. The disease is characterized by six months of incapacitating fatigue experienced as profound exhaustion and extremely poor stamina, and problems with concentration and short-term memory. The cause is unknown, but it is a...

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I keep reading that it's important to minimize stress with CFIDS and fibro. Well, for me, the greatest stressors come from interpersonal relationships. So the holidays pose a dilemma - how to visit my oldest friend and her family when I love her kids (son is our godchild) and her husband but am always finding myself stressed around her. I never feel good after seeing her anymore but i want to stay connected to her family. I love her but I have trouble liking and respecting her these days because of some things that have happened between us since she became my boss five years ago. She has also become so generally critical (not of me) and dominates conversations talking about how hard her job is.
Any suggestions about avoiding or weathering the holiday get together? How do you handle being with toxic people?
Any suggestions about avoiding or weathering the holiday get together? How do you handle being with toxic people?
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And no, this isn't an easy task. I've had to do it myself recently in recognizing a relationship I have with a friend isn't working on a healthy level for me. Unfortunately my method of breaking away this time was very clumsy and messy... I guess it's just been a long time since I've had to make a choice like this, but I know it's for the better. Be true to yourself... it's crucial to your health. Good luck and Happy Happy Holidays.
I'm totally, totally, TOTALLY still learning about all of this!
And as I have heard at 12 step meetings detach with love and if you cant detach with love detach period.
>Take some time before the holidays to evaluate your feelings about spending time with close family and friends. Ultimately, you will have to make a choice: are you willing to risk offending someone for the sake of self-preservation or the maintenance of boundaries? This can be especially difficult if you are trying to decide whether to spend the holidays with your caregiver(s) or those you care for.
Perhaps there are some compromises that can be made. Maybe there is a specific behavior or situation that is particularly bothersome but you still value the person and want to be with them. One way to address this would be to simply, yet compassionately say, "I'd like to spend some time with you over the holidays, but I'd rather you not drink (smoke, complain, wear perfume, etc.) when you are around me. I value you, but my condition makes it very difficult for me to be around that behavior."<
The first time I followed that was difficult. Then I realized, the people involved expected a sick person to make THEIR lives easier, when it should be the other way around.
Then it got reeeeeeeal EASY.
If it's someone you don't know well or don't really care about, it's easy. Just avoid them and not care what they think. Obviously, in this case, you care. About her feelings and her opinion of you. I would echo what others here have said...either try and be directly honest and risk some negative fall out, or just limit your exposure, change the subject, etc when the topic of work comes up.She may not be aware of her impact on you. You know her so only you can decide what course of action would be best.
Sometimes being sick is a convenient way to say "sorry, I can only be here for one hour, I just get so tired." hehehehe
I hope it will work out for you.
*hugs*
Unfortunately for me I have many unhealthy people around me. The stress I can see is terrible for me. Having my grandaughter is hard enough but dealing with her mother and father and all the drama seen and hidden is getting to me. I really cant wait to see a therapist to unload.
I use to get to alanon to deal with these people in my life but I`am unable to get anywhere these days. I`am holding on and trying my best right now and really looking at trying to keep it simple and enjoy the day for the little one. After all isnt this what Christmas is for, children?
Wishing you all a way to weather your toxic family and friends.
Rosanne
Is it the cause of CFS no is it a contributor yes. Yes strees induces many toxic products and it is important to minimise it with ME/CFS/CFIDS and Fibro.
Cheers
Ali5tair