I really want to move away from my mother and father in law. We live right across the yard from them. They treat my husband awful. Especially my mother in law. Sometimes she aggravates him so much, I'm afraid she'll cause him to have a heart attack or something. It's very hard to explain how they [the mother and father in law] are, but they do it on purpose! And I'm not just thinking that, either! I don't know why they are like that. And then my father in law inappropriately touched me last fall and has caused me to lose all trust in people except for my husband. I really want to get away from them. I can't let my daughter outside during the day because if they see her out in the yard, they began frantically calling for her to come over. So what's the point? She's just going from one house to the next. And so, we stay inside all day long. I want to move away where we can have our own backyard and our privacy and freedom. But my husband's sisters leave it up to him to care for the parents. Why can't they live right across the yard, instead of us? We have lives too, you know. And we are the youngest in the family. We've never really lived on our own, since we've been married, because of his parents being old and sick. I guess that's why I get so mad when I'm around them. I feel like they've taken away from us. It even feels like they are taking my daughter away, too. Whenever she says, "Mom?", her grandma answers before I can. Her grandma acts like she's her mother and grandpa acts like he's the father. He never has trusted my husband and I to be able to take care of our own child! They let her do whatever she wants at their house and when she comes back here, she thinks anything goes, too. She's making terrible messes and no matter how much I spank her or try to make her mind, she goes on doing it anyway! I told my husband all about how I feel, but he doesn't see any way out. He has to help his parents with their bills and everything. He even has to buy groceries for them! They act like he's the parent and they are the children! Why can't someone else live here and take care of them? Why do we have to do it? Why? My husband has five sisters and none of them want to. One of them comes to visit her parents a lot during the day. "So why don't you rent your place to her and move?" you might suggest. Nope. Can't do that. She's a cheap sake. She wouldn't pay. And the house would be destroyed by the time she had lived in it for a little while. She's a worse housekeeper than I am! We would end up losing our house and she would be out of a place to stay, so who would look after the old folks? It would be us, again. Just like before we got our own house. We'd have to stay at their house and things would probably be in a financial ruin, so we'd be stuck. The old folks are a bad influence on my daughter too! You might think old folks are harmless. Well, they're not! My mother in law was just yesterday making lewd gestures with her tongue at my daughter! My husband got so pissed and I did too. She flops her breasts out for my daughter to touch them and goodness knows what else she's done already! I hate my daughter having to stay at her grandparents sometimes, but I have a disease that requires me to get rest or it will just get worse. So, you see. I am stuck. We are stuck. You'd expect your kids staying at their grandparent's house, that they'd be safe and sound. I can't get my mom to help me much because she's got stuff to do and her "friend" has moved back in and she doesn't want to leave him alone at her house all the time. I'm just so aggravated at everyone! My husband's only way of reassuring me that it will get better is suggesting that I keep in mind that his parents are old and sick and won't live much longer! He doesn't know what else to do either! Sometimes I just feel like screaming and pulling my hair out!
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