My DH has a son with a woman who is 11yrs old. DH pays his child support every month directly out of his pay checks and sees his son for all of his visits. He has even tried to use his midweek visits of a couple hours but BM makes it difficult for him. In South Dakota the visitation guidelines (which they are suppose to follow) states for a child age 5 and over that the noncustodial parent gets every other weekend Friday 5:30pm to Sunday 7pm and that times can change to fit parents' schedule. That one parent should pick up and the other drop off. Well my DH has been doing both for about a year to year and a half due to she works the weekends DH has him. My DH has never complained. This past sunday she sent me a text saying that she was going to be picking the child up since she didn't have to work. Okay no prob but she shows up a half hour before his time is over and then complains that she can't be doing this night time driving because she almost hit 3 deer. First she drives about 70 to 80mph and texts while she drives. My DH said that it was fine she could drop off on Fridays and he would do the drop offs on sunday but then she threw the fit that 7pm was too late because he has bed time at 8:30pm. If she wants to change the times then shouldn't it be equivalant to the original time stated by the visitation guidelines? This is all starting to come out after my SS told his counselor that he sees 1x a week (from the result of abuse allegations against the stepdad) that he wanted to spend half the week at his mother's and the other half at our house. The counselor thought it would be a good thing for my SS and even found out how far the bus from his town comes out by our house and it's only like 5 miles. Last year around christmas his stepfather kicked him in the back and he decided that he wanted to live with us until come May his mother started buying him everything he wanted and he chose to stay with his mother. We gave him a cell phone to call his father whenever he wanted to but was told he could not use it at his mother's by his stepfather. The only time he has called his father is when his mother tells him to call to ask him to buy something. So is she actually allowed to shorten my DH's time with his son when he enjoys being with his son. He also has siblings at our home that enjoys being with and misses. What would your suggestion be?
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