I'm scared right now that when I file for divorce that my ex will try to get joint custody. I couldn't handle that. When my daughter was 8 1/2 months old I joined the army to try and support us and her father was supposed to be the one taking care of her. While I was gone her aunt found her chocking on a pipe screen from her dad's weed pipe that he left on the floor. He took her to a tattoo shop a few times and brought her back smelling like weed and was filthy. He would stay at my mom's and leave the baby down stairs with my little brother who was 13 at the time, My ex would stay in my brothers room and play video games all day, my brother would feed and change and take care of my daughter all day until my mom got home and she would take over and feed and bath her. My little brother didn't like to change dirty diapers and would have to beg my ex several times to change my daughter, he'd let her sit in it for hours. When I got back from training my daughter was 14 1/2 months old. She had bloody diaper rash and a burned hand. The hand was because her father had an iron on the floor and wasn't watching her. When I got her back I put diaper rash cream on her after every diaper change and it was gone in 2 weeks, her father couldn't even do that. She is now 2 1/2 and her genital area is still so sensitive from when she had the rash, she cries everytime I have to wipe her. When I had come back from training he basically dropped her off and the rest of the two weeks I was a whole 2 blocks away he didn't once ask to visit her. When he came to drop off all of her belongings the day before we left he asked to say good bye and I told him she was asleep but he could go in the house and kiss her if he wanted. He said no. We then had to move to my duty station which was in new york. He hasn't seen her since Dec 4th of 07. He hasn't tried to see her and hasn't sent her a penny. I even offered to let him stay with us if he visited or he could come live with me till he got his own place so he could be closer to his daughter, he said no. He now lives in texas and I live in california, I would be scared to death for my daughter to have visitation with her father. She is my world and I don't want her to ever get hurt. He attempted suicide when she was 3 months old and was kicked out of the army for it and about a year ago he stole a gun and was going to shoot himself in the head but for some reason shot himself in the foot. He has a court case pending. What does anyone think, do you think he will get visitation?
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