I have had visitation with my son since last June after losing custody of him to his father. I went through a chain of events to gain that custody back and worked very hard at proving to him, the court and his father that I was back to the person I once was, very loving and responsible. My relationship with his dad has gotten better and with my son is great now. I am very worried though. Over the past few months (especially since summer began) whenever I pick my son up his father is not home. The same goes when I drop him off. I usually have him twice during the week (pick him up after work and then drop him off at 8:30 pm) Even on weekends, his father is not home when I pick him up, nor is he there when I drop him off on Sunday at 8:30 pm. I am very concerned because when I drop him off it's getting dark outside and he is alone (12 yrs old). I go into the apartment with him and have him call his father to let him know that he is home, but most of the time he gets voicemail. I am going to talk to his father about this. It has happened way too many times and I am just very concerned that if there was an actual emergency his father is too busy doing other things to answer his phone. I also noticed that the apartment was trashed, cloting everywhere, dishes everywhere, etc. Last night, I gave my son some leftovers to bring home and I offered to put it in the fridge. There was no food in the fridge. My son told me that he is the one who cleans the apartment (and does a very good job I might add). I really need to get a grip on this and find out what the hell is going on. It seems that his father is too busy with his social life and is neglecting my son. I want to get back my shared custody arrangement and am saving to get a 2 bedroom apt. In the meantime, I am going to suggest to his father that he either be there when I drop him off or he can pick him up from my house. I am also keeping a log of this to bring back to court. Just venting, any advice would be appreciated.
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