I am 27 years old and have a five month old son. There is a very long story to correlate with the situation...I started dating a man almost six years ago who has a child with his ex-wife. Now, the ex-wife has been married again with another child and divorced again. Over a year ago, I found out that I was pregnant with his child. We had discussed getting married before finding out about the baby, so decided to speed things up a bit. I moved in with him at this time, and we wound up deciding to wait until after the baby to get married (at least he did). Well, come to find out, the day that our son was born he was on the phone with her and out of the room a lot. He was sending her "i love you" messages, and they had already determined that they would be getting back together. I did not find out about any of this until our son was three months old. Needless to say, now I am living in an apartment with our son, and trying my hardest to get along with him for the sake of our son "Jett." We decided that we could work this out without lawyers and such, but now because I feel like he has the money and thus the power that I have little say so over what goes on. He gets him one night a weekend, but I have not found anyone else with a child this young that has to deal with overnight visits. I am by no means trying to keep him away from his father, but I feel like he is just to young to be away that long. Now, I have also found that his ex-wife is staying the weekends with them too. Before, when the tables were turned, I was not allowed to stay overnight when her daughter was in the house. I am just confused and flustered. I don't want to stir up too much until we don't get along, but I don't feel like it is fair that I have to be without my son overnight at such a young age when we were never married. I just wondered what other people are doing at this age. I have a hard time finging anyone with young children going through these custody issues. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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