I'm new to this group and had a couple questions that I might find answers to here. Well, I am in the middle of a divorce, and my final conference is Nov. 30th. There has been a temporary order for custody and child support my ex has to pay. I lost my job in June and am looking for a job, but I have not had any success yet. Well, I live in Colorado and it is starting to get cold at times. I bought my daughter a jacket and asked my kids dad if he could buy my son one. He said he had no money and couldn't. So one of my questions is, was it ok for me to ask him to go half on buying the jackets? He used to be a great provider and want our kids to be taken care of. I don't mind buying both my kids jackets, I just don't have money right now. My ex just had his 2nd child with the "other woman." I understand he has them to take care of, but it shocked me that he was so unwilling to help out. He did the same thing when it came to buying school clothes and supplies. I bought them all. I heard that him and his girlfriend were going to Vegas later in the year, so it really bothers me that he can't spare $30 or so to get his son a jacket, but he can go on a trip. And another thing is my sons b-day is coming up. I gave him a big party last year and asked his dad if he was planning on throwing him one this year (it will be his weekend). He got defensive and said no, he doesn't have money and he is sure I will give him a great party. I don't know why he thinks I have so much money. What he pays in child support goes towards the rent. I am barely making it and all my bills are paid late. I thought child support was supposed to help take care of monthly expenses. I do buy them clothes and things they need on a regular basis, but that is way more than child support provides. Am I expecting too much? I only ask him because I need the help now, if I had extra money I would not ask him. I try hard to keep the peace with him. He has been rude when we talk (suddenly his girlfriend has been txting me about the arrangements with the kids), and I am ok with that. I am always nice to them. Sorry for going on and on, it just makes me angry that he is being difficult.
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