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My bf of 3.5 years has been separated from his wife for 4 years. We've lived together for about 2 years. Two months ago we had a son together (unplanned).
Although his estranged wife was the one to leave him 4 years ago and is currently in a 2 year relationship she was appalled he'd get a woman pregnant while married to her and she supposedly talked to a lawyer about adultry. BF is in the military and she has threatened going to his command about his "adultry".
Since we live together, I'm sure I can't file for custody, but is there ANYTHING I can do? He filed for divorce over a year ago, but she refuses to retain a lawyer and respond. She doesn't want to lose his health insurance because she hates using the V.A. (she collects 100%+ disability). She doesn't want to use their facilities for her health care, but she loves collecting $40,000+ tax free a year from them.
But I digress!
Thanks for any advise you can give! :o)
Although his estranged wife was the one to leave him 4 years ago and is currently in a 2 year relationship she was appalled he'd get a woman pregnant while married to her and she supposedly talked to a lawyer about adultry. BF is in the military and she has threatened going to his command about his "adultry".
Since we live together, I'm sure I can't file for custody, but is there ANYTHING I can do? He filed for divorce over a year ago, but she refuses to retain a lawyer and respond. She doesn't want to lose his health insurance because she hates using the V.A. (she collects 100%+ disability). She doesn't want to use their facilities for her health care, but she loves collecting $40,000+ tax free a year from them.
But I digress!
Thanks for any advise you can give! :o)
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Thanks for the reply.