Be strong...I was so afraid of going to court I settled for shared custody but now wish I hadn't been so intimidated. If your husband has something to hold against you that a judge might find you unfit then this may be a good idea, but if has nothing other then intimidating you, don't be so quick to give in. Usually when a child is so young the judge goes with the mother. Unless your husband has been the sole caretaker of this baby then I don't understand why he would get custody. I am not sure of the laws in your state, but you should at least ask for Joint custody. In my state Sole custody means the parent w/ that can make all decisions for the child w/ out even consulting w/ the other parent. Whereas, joint custody, one parent my have physical custody but both parents get to make major decisons in the child's life and have the right to contact the schools, doctors, records, etc.., Unless the judge felt you had an unsafe environment or mental health issues I would think they would at least give joint custody. Hang in there and stay strong...you can do it - I know its hard.

I am not unfit. He, his family, and a couple of friends have called CPS on me but nothing was found. Because I am a good mom. I was the primary caregiver. I don't have a job tho, but neither does my Husband. Hes not the one who really wants my baby my husband's mom does. And they are paying for my husband's lawayer. They have money.

you need to make sure that you have documentation of being in an abuse shelter that will speak valumes in court. get a job and get a lawyer, they will let you pay over time. if you want primary care taker you fight for it. not too many judges will take a baby away from a mother unless she is PROVEN unfit. if he has abused you you have one up on him. dont back down. good luck. oh, one more thing, his mom has no say in anything, no judge is going to give your baby to the dad for the grandma to take care of unless you are rpoven unfit. and unlsess there is written custody order already, next time you get baby for visit, refuse to return baby. you do not have to, no one can make you unless there is a court order saying you have to. if he tries to take baby call the cops, if he doesnt have a court order saying he gets baby the police will not let him have the baby.

Ok he has filed a suit against you. Which puts you as a defendant. which entitles you to Legal Aid. Please take that very seriously. If you do not respond to his suit within the 20 days you will not have the right to speak to the judge. And he will win by default. Second Get a job!!! If you have a job and he does not, you can ask the court how is he plan to support the child? Don't let him bully you around. This is your child too.

A baby? A baby need to be with its mother during the first years of its life. Dad visiting for an afternoon fine but not living with him.

Living with grandma is second to living with a mom.

Definitely ask the court of sole custody with him as the visiting parent. Then offer to barter it down to joing custody. You need to be in a position of power here when grandma sticks her nose in.

Get that legal aid if you qualify. Get that job. Offer to let his mother baby sit while you're working and GET ALONG WITH HER.

Judges will rule against mothers only if there is proof of a good reason to do so. Fair or not you've got that on your side. And with a baby it is fair.

Do not automatically follow any advise or arguments they give. They do not have your best interests in mind. Probably quite the opposite.

A baby? A baby need to be with its mother during the first years of its life. Dad visiting for an afternoon fine but not living with him.

Living with grandma is second to living with a mom.

Definitely ask the court of sole custody with him as the visiting parent. Then offer to barter it down to joing custody. You need to be in a position of power here when grandma sticks her nose in.

Get that legal aid if you qualify. Get that job. Offer to let his mother baby sit while you're working and GET ALONG WITH HER.

Judges will rule against mothers only if there is proof of a good reason to do so. Fair or not you've got that on your side. And with a baby it is fair.

Do not automatically follow any advise or arguments they give. They do not have your best interests in mind. Probably quite the opposite.

I agree with OC. It's best for a child to be in the mother's care for the infant and toddler years for nurturing. Yeah, Gma can provide alot of nurturing if mom isn't there, but best with mom. Pre teen and teenage years might be best spend with Dad, especially if child is a boy, we boys can get into all kinds of trouble, and trouble knows trouble ; )

The judge will order whatever he deems best for the child. I did hear of one case in my state where the child was awarded to the court and taken from the parents. This was a rare case I'm sure but it's an example of how it's about the child, not the parents.

Fight for your baby. Your baby needs to be with YOU not the dad, not the mom-in-law. Borrow money, put it on a credit card, get a job, but fight to have sole or at tthe least, shared, custody of YOUR baby.

Don't give him sole custody.

Hugs to you for your pain.

I really do feel a baby should be with a mom depending on what kinda mom the child has, when that child reaches a certain age and wants to be with dad then that different but a baby needs that motherly love no offense to fathers.I would fight for my baby to the end and if u know the mo is the real secret behind this than the father won't have u rbaby anyway the mother will.

My partner and I split when my girls were 2 and 11 months. There is NO way I would've let him take the girls, I also believe that babies and small children should remain with their mums. I don't go to work, my job is looking after my girls full-time. Fight for your baby, get legal aid and don't let him intimidate you