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My daughter's father and I were together for 8 years before we broke up. We were 5 months away from our wedding but never made it. I did, however, end up getting pregnant right before we broke up.
He did not support me through the pregnancy and did/does not have anything to do with me or my daughter.
Our daughter is now 2.
At the child support hearing, it was determined that he was obligated to pay a few hundred dollars every month.
His income from real estate and other assets are enough that he can live on it without having to work. I know this. It's been that way since we met 10 years ago. But it's difficult to prove how much money he has because he hides his assets. He and his mother have joint accounts because they both inherited money and both names are on the titles for their property.
At the time, he claimed to be a substitute teacher. The c.s. officer said someone with a college degree should be able to find steady work (Ha!) But it seems that they haven't enforced that.
I have had no contact with him since we sat in the c.s. office. Everyday I think to myself that I should call him and tell him just how much he's missing out and then berate him for not supporting his child.
But reality sets in and I know I would be getting into some major drama that I just don't need right now.
The problem is, he started off a month behind because he never made the first payment. Then he takes his sweet time and pays at all different times of the month. I never know when or if to expect it.
I know that I should feel lucky because some people never see any money at all.
But it's frustrating when I'm living paycheck to paycheck and I count on his payments to supplement my income. I have rent due at a certain time every month. Same with childcare.
My child receives medical assistance because, since he wasn't working, he wasn't made to pay for medical insurance. I just can't afford to put her on my policy.
Sometimes I think he's just dumb and lazy but other times I think he's being manipulative because he always manages to make a payment just before he would be delinquent and there would actually be something legally that could be done to him.
So what do I do?
I feel like I have a unique situation and I can't find any answers.
How do I prepare for our 36 month reevaluation? Do I need a lawyer?
He did not support me through the pregnancy and did/does not have anything to do with me or my daughter.
Our daughter is now 2.
At the child support hearing, it was determined that he was obligated to pay a few hundred dollars every month.
His income from real estate and other assets are enough that he can live on it without having to work. I know this. It's been that way since we met 10 years ago. But it's difficult to prove how much money he has because he hides his assets. He and his mother have joint accounts because they both inherited money and both names are on the titles for their property.
At the time, he claimed to be a substitute teacher. The c.s. officer said someone with a college degree should be able to find steady work (Ha!) But it seems that they haven't enforced that.
I have had no contact with him since we sat in the c.s. office. Everyday I think to myself that I should call him and tell him just how much he's missing out and then berate him for not supporting his child.
But reality sets in and I know I would be getting into some major drama that I just don't need right now.
The problem is, he started off a month behind because he never made the first payment. Then he takes his sweet time and pays at all different times of the month. I never know when or if to expect it.
I know that I should feel lucky because some people never see any money at all.
But it's frustrating when I'm living paycheck to paycheck and I count on his payments to supplement my income. I have rent due at a certain time every month. Same with childcare.
My child receives medical assistance because, since he wasn't working, he wasn't made to pay for medical insurance. I just can't afford to put her on my policy.
Sometimes I think he's just dumb and lazy but other times I think he's being manipulative because he always manages to make a payment just before he would be delinquent and there would actually be something legally that could be done to him.
So what do I do?
I feel like I have a unique situation and I can't find any answers.
How do I prepare for our 36 month reevaluation? Do I need a lawyer?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
i have talked to my case worker about his payments always being erratic and they told me he technically has until the end of the month to make payments. he has to be one full month behind in payments before they will take action.
as for the medical insurance, it seems to me that one state agency would make sure there was no burden on another state agency by making him responsible for her health insurance, but they didn't make it part of the agreement.
of course, my situation has changed since then. I have moved to a different part of Ohio, started a different job and have a new insurance plan for myself. To add her would cost a little more than twice as much as what I pay now.
As far as someone looking into his finances, I know how much he values his bank account. It was the reason for many arguments. I'm pretty sure that because he and his mother are joint holders of the accounts and the deeds and titles of the properties, that it isn't factored into what he earns. But I'm not sure. I just know that he would fight me tooth and nail because he can afford representation and he knows I can't. He also cares more about his money and stuff than he does his child. He is very spiteful and would like to make the process as painful for me as possible--even though it won't hurt him a bit to fork over what he rightly owes.