Ex and I have been divorced a year. I have them primarily during the school year: He sees them every wednesday(including overnight) and then every other weekend from Fri-Mon morn. Then when school is out, we switch. He gets them majority of the time. It works out that we have them about equal time--his time just occurs in clumps. He pays me child support. Here is my question: Is dad responsible to have clothes/shoes at his house for the kids or am I to use part of the $ he gives me to make sure the kids have enough at both homes? He feels that if he has to get stuff (shoes, clothes) for the kids at his house then he is paying twice for them. I feel that he should have stuff for them when they are at is house but he wants me to send their shoes when they are there. I know that there are many scenarios where mom doesn't send anything other than the clothes on their back and then there are others who send a few extra items. I can't have my kids NOT be taken care of but in a way I feel like he is dictating what I spend the $ on. We live 5 blocks away and I'm trying to keep this as amicable as possible. Pretty hard after the fight we had this weekend over this. Is it really a big deal and worth fighting over? Should I just say fuck it and send them w/ a few xtra items and walk the high road? Not sure what to do--I know what I'd like to do but that would just hurt me and the kids and I really don't have room for his negativity in my life anymore. The money he gives me is spent on the kids--food and clothes primarily. I don't waste it.
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