you need to get video of your sons behavior after visits. if nothing else, pictures and written notes describing his behavior. in the USA his threast would cost him any unsupervised visits. is visiting there a visiting schedule in the cusoty papers? if no, why not? get that scedule in writing, next time he refuses to give you your son back after a visit, or tries to force you to let him keep son longer then he is supposed to call the police and have him forced to give child to you. i would also get a restraining on him over the threats. you must document every thing, pictures/video is best but a journal will do. is your son in any kind of daycare or school? if so, do they are tell you he has had a bad day? if so was it right after his visit with dad? a lot of ppl do not want to get involved so tell any potential witnesses to your ex' behavior and your sons behavior, if you need any one to by being witness have them sopniad (sp) into court to testify. you need a lawyer who will guide you through everything, but due to your ex's clear instability you need to file with the court that your son is in emotional stress and danger when he is with his dad and you need all visits to be supervised asap. i wonder if you should inform you childs Dr that he is having problems, in fact i would make it a point to talk to dr about often so it will be documented there as well. i could go on for hours about this but i wont, in the usa that kind of thing can be stopped fast, ex keeps child longer then visiting schedule says, and you do not agree to let him keep son longer that is considered kidnapping and contempt of court. oh one more thing, get your son evaluated for stress, anxiety, for the record AND to help him deal with this as well. i cant not stress enough about documenting everything, even the good things, dont go into it trying to paint a picture of ex as the monster that he is, courts dont like that, good luck!

Wow - what more is there to say? great advice Pricilla - only other thing I would suggest is councelling - make sure to take him during 'normal' times and then get him there right after visit with his father. It's another form of documentation from an unbiased source. GL

yeah the laws are different in australia i called nearly all the police stations in my state and nobody would help because they need a recovery order and nobody saw it as urgent enough to apply for one. My littke boy is starting councelling in about 5 weeks wish it was earlier but that was the best they could do so untill then just have to keep up the visits i guess, he did used to go to daycare but he just stopped wanting to go one day and just refused and got the same as he is when i try and take him to his dads. I do have a domtestic violence oreder on him with my sons name on it but the police here really dont care if he breaks it, theres one set of rules for me then another set for him. Thanx heaps for the advice

we have issues when my child returns too. There are free programs that will give you and your child family counseling (my child has insurance, provided by her father with a 10,000$ deductible- I know useless he never pays for 1/2 of anything. My child was violent. Lots of counceling (they even had visits with her at her school) has helped our lives so much. We have also had the suggestion by the councelor and by her doctor to get on meds. for add, we have chosen not to go this route and we have no regrets. As far as the court stuff. I have spent my life savings only to lose every fight because he has more money so I wish I could give advice for that. Good luck

Have you tried getting your son into counseling? Are there things happening at his dad's house that shouldn't be?

If you can get professional documented evidence that you son is suffering because of hte visits with his dad then you would have more to go on in court. Recording is also a good idea.

also hired a counseler. The therpist can write a letter to the judge asking for chages.
Your husband is using the child to control you.
AND as long as you have an court order the law HAS to obey it!
I had something happen like that but didn't have the court order in my hand as of yet. But now that we do have the court order it will not be pulled again.
Your x husband is probably saying things to while your child is with him making the child fear he won't ever see you again.
But yes video tape etc... but remember the therpist will be there for you and the child.