I have every other weekend and 2 nights during the week with my 12 yr old son. Lately, and because it is summer, I have been flexible with rearranging our visits so he can go visit family, go with his friends, go to special events, etc. I have no problem with doing this, but my concern is that when he is over my house now, he seems very bored. I always plan things to do when he's over and my boyfriend and I try to accomodate his interests. Lately, it seems as though he just wants to hang around around our apartment (3 rooms and very small). If I suggest going somewhere, he won't be interested. I also have two older children (24 and 26) who I have been through the teenage years with. I realize that he is probably just being "his age" and would rather be at home with his friends. But, I still want him to be part of my life too. At this point, I am kind of making the plans and just telling him we are going, rather than giving him an option on every little thing we do. I know from past experience that sometimes he'll say he doesnt't want to go somewhere or do something, but once we do it, he has a good time. The problem too is that he lives with his dad and has quite a bit of freedom there. He spends his days alone and goes with his friends riding bikes, swimming, etc. When he's at my house, he doesn't have any neighborhood friends. We are in the process of saving to get out of the neighborhood and apt to make living space larger and a better neighborhood for him to be able to ride his bike in. Anyone else deal with this problem or similar situation? Just looking for some suggestions. Thanks.
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