Hey everyone. I am new to this group. I am married with three children ages 6, 3 and 5 months old. My children have different fathers. This is my first time being married. My oldest childs father has a lot of strange issues. It seems as if we may end up having to battle for custody. My child has always lived in my home, It wasnt until the past year or two that she began to stay overnight with her dad. He has several roomates and people in and out of his house. He have a 5 bedroom home and constantly has people move in and out. DCF has ordered him to do background checks on his roomates. He is a nudist and often wears womens clothing in public. This behaviour is part of the reason our relationship didnt last very long. We do not have any kind of child support of visitation ordered by the court. He has not contributed towards anything in almost a year now, and has always been on and off with helping and is always in and out of the picture. He keeps threatening me because I wont always let her go with him. Sometimes she cries and says she doesnt want to go with him. Ive finally had DCF step in. I dont know what to do anymore. I acts like I have victimized him or taken away his rights, but he doesnt understand that his behaviour seems to bother our daughter and the crossdressing is just inappropriate around her. I guess I am just old fashioned, but I dont want any of this for my child. I have had some difficult times in the past, but now I am happily married and we have a normal family oriented home to share with our children. I dont know what is going to happen, but I guess all I can do is wait. In the meantime, he tells her how horrible of a person he thinks I am and how mean he feels like I am to him. He should never tell her things about me like that. Its frustrating because I ask him not to discuss things of that nature with her but he refuses to listen. He says its okay because he uses "kid friendly" terms. Her grades at school are suffering, and everytime she comes home from his house, her behaviour is off the wall. Im going to start taking her to a councellor. Anyone have any advice?
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