I would tell her to fuck off lol jk. but really i would calmly let her know that you appreciate everything she is doing, but you have your opinions on your children. calmly explain that her thoughts are well noted, and that you will take them into consideration. Also let her know that the clothes you have is all you can afford, and if you could afford to buy new clothes to send to her you would think about it. Calmly ask if she wanted to go out and buy clothes for the kids, or simply share clothes with her other children. If you try and explain your side of the story, you will probably get no where, but if you tell them that you hear what they are saying they might shut the fuck up. Make sure that when you do tell them not to get angry or upset (i know this is hard to do, i deal with the same issue). some people need to feel like they have control of the situation before they shut there mouth. its like the mother in law that tells you what to do. you just nod and say ok. its one of those situations where you should be the bigger person. now if they talk about giving you less money or seeing the kids more often or what not, then explain to them you can't do that until you talk to your lawyer or some shit like that. anywho i hope that this works. if you need anything, or want to vent, im here

well honey this is what i would say did i make this child with you or him and what needs to be said can be spoken with him and what i send my kids in is none of your business cause if they really care about your kids they should have clothes over there for your kids i know this cause i send my kids to there dads in play clothes something i am not worried about and they wash their play clothes and send them back in them that way we don't have to worry about his and mine clthes

How is it she's reaching you? If it's via email, I would have them go into a folder you don't read much and just save them for a day you may need them. Or just block her emails all together so you don't have to read her dribble. If she's calling you, get caller ID.

I suggest you NOT talk or correspond with this woman. You don't have to deal with her at all and it's best if you just ignore her. Tell your ex that you will only deal with him on issues regarding the kids and if she persists, then press charges of harassment.

Draw your boundaries and stick to them. It doesn't help anyone to get into a pissing contest with a jealous woman... and that's exactly what his new wife is.

best wishes!!

I would ignore her but document every time she does something that you percieve to be harmful. It doesn't help your kids to keep fighting with her. If you have a protective order I would definitely keep things quiet but document that way your kids will feel comfortable telling you if anything happens. If the kids know she is causing you trouble they will be less likely to tell you anything about her.

I am my husband's second wife. I came along three years after their divorce that she wanted. They have one daughter. Soon after we married, the then 15 year old came to visit us for the summer. When we notified the ex that she would be coming back on this flight at this time at the end of the summer, her response was, "You can raise her now." She had gotten married just one week after we did (maybe hoping she could get back with her NOW better well off ex husband). I ended up raising this girl. And being 15 was not an easy age. Her father was out of town so much of the time so I had a lot to do w/ her "raising." Plus, I was the "female" in her life which she seemed to need and it just worked. I am a good person. I have a good family. I am upbeat and positive and so we ended up having fun! I guess I influenced her in ways and this did not wash well w/ the ex. She overstated things that I had "done" and talked ill of me and she didn't even know my character. She accused me of the same things LITTLE MOMA accuses her ex of. Yes, she got all this money and you think that the daughter would benefit from it...nope. It took care of Yoga lessons, supported her habit of having a wardrobe full of clothes and shoes, she even used it to pay off bills she got stuck w/ for her rampant spending habits, and still managed to buy stuff online. This girl didn't get to go to soccer, go out w/ friends, etc, because she convinced her daughter that she didn't have the money. So GO LIVE W/ DAD because he can afford it. (and she can live w/ her new husband w/o having a "ball and chain of a daughter.") There are two sides to every story. And I know I will be the ex wife in the coming months but I will say this, positive roll models in my kids' life is imperative! The kids will have to be w/ me if there are "women" coming and going. I didn't shove any odd belief system down my step daughter's throat and expect a possible girlfriend to do the same.

Politely inform her that you do not have to go through her to speak to your ex, nor do you wish to, and that you are not interested in anything she may have to say regarding your children or anything else. leave it at that. Make no efforts to contact her, do not respond to anymore efforts on her part to contact you. Ignore her, but do keep records of everything. I mean EVERYTHING.