I filed for divorce from my ex husband in 2007. He signed everything with no problem giving me custody. It also stated that visitation would be agreed upon by both parties. We talked about every other weekend. I every once in a while would take the boys to see him because the boys missed him so much. He for some reason would never come and get them. Well I met a wonderful man who has been basically dad to my boys for the past almost 2 years. He taught the oldest boy to tie his shoes, and he helped potty train the youngest. We moved closer to my ex husband in hopes that he would make more of an effort to pick up the boys on the days that we agreed upon. Things havent changed. I have taken them and dropped them off, I have had to pick them up. My bf's sister has dropped them off. His New Mother in law( He got married Feb. 9, 2009) has even picked them up once and dropped them off twice. I have no problems with her but I feel it is his responsibility. He is now refusing saying that I need to drop them off and then he will bring them home. We tried this two weeks ago but it was again his mother-in-law who brought them home. The hours that he works doesn't allow him to spend much time with them as it is. For Example I would drop them off at his mother-in-laws on Friday as soon as oldest boy gets home from school so he would be there by 4:30pm, their dad wouldn't pick them up until after 7 when he gets off of work, Saturday he would have to drop them off early at his mother-in-laws and get them again after 7. Sunday he would drop them off early and his mother-in-law would bring them home by noon so they wouldn't get to spend much time with him on Sunday. They would spend more time with his mother-in-law then with their own dad. We have even offered to let him keep them on Monday and Tuesday ( his days off) because he lives not but a block from oldest son's school and he refuses saying that those days are for him and his wife to spend time together. It hurts me that my boys keep getting hurt. I am done though taking them to him. I want him to make the effort. What can I do to get him to make more of an effort to come and get them and spend some more time with him? I am at my wits end. They boys are only 7 and 3.
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