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helping a young mum in trouble with docs

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I am 28 married and have 4 happy healthy children. My problem is i want to help a young mum who is 8 months pregnant with her third child. The first 2 were taken by DOCS because of her drug use, and involvement with her partner, who has a criminal record and also a drug user. She has asked me if she can come stay with us to sort herself out. She hasn't taken drugs in 2 months and has the urine tests to prove it and she wants to leave the partner to come stay with us. What I need to know is what steps we have to take for her to be able to keep this child, and also what will I have to go through with DOCS if she is staying with me. Surely they will want to interview us and check things out. Is it worth the trouble to help or should I just stay out of it and hope she does things herself. I dont want to put my children in harms way but I feel i should help as she's asked me for it.
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The odds against her getting off drugs at that age are slim but not none. It can happen. Even if she fails you'll have helped her along as sometimes it takes many tries before they quit. This maybe the one of many that is required before she can make it.
DOCS should have services available to this woman or should be able to direcet her to organizations that can help her. These organizations will get her the therapy, treatment, and education necessary for her to succeed. By helping her get set up with such organizations you will be providing her a greater service than you can give her by letting her into your home.
Please think carefully about letting a drug addict into your home. If DOCS finds out they may remove your children as well as the unborn baby.
it's gods calling to help others, but make sure you're helping the ones at home first.
Sometimes prayer is the best help.He will take care of his own. He doesn't expect you to cause he's gonna help those who help themselves. so continue taking care of your self by putting your children first no matter what.If you could take a bullet for your kid than you can handle setting limits of what you really can and can't give. What if it doesnt work out,anythings possible right? then what? Is it worth having to look back and live with that, you know it sounds chancy or you wouldn,t be asking