i am so frusterated. my son visits his dad (court ordered). some back up info. his 'dad' took off for three years i did not file abandoment because i wanted my son to know that side of his family. so then when he was four his 'dad' came back into the picture on an inconsistant basis. then when my son began school his 'dad' decited to move down here and see my son on a consistant basis. well that has been going on for about four years now. so you are basically caught up. his 'dad' buys him something new every time he goes there. not just little things, things like a keroke machine, a trampoline (the big ones), a four wheeler, he got these for no reason at all. it was not at birthdays, not at holidays. just because my son wanted them. and now that teh visitation schedule is getting redone he bought my son a motorcycle. my son just turned 10. and his 'dad' told him that i do not need to know about it. it really pisses me off. so now my son wants to go over there all the time because his 'dad' will buy him what ever it wants. he told me tonight that he wants to live there 50/50. i will not do that. his 'dad' is verbally abusive, he is scared of his 'dad', he is afraid that his 'dad' will get mad at him for little things. when ever he comes home from there he says 'i will get them back'. so how am i suppose to react i am so upset, i am pissed because his 'dad' is telling to have secrets from me, that i dont need to know. i just dont understand. what should i do?
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