Here's the deal; as short as I can make it, I'm in an awful common-law (thank-Goodness!) relationship. We have a toddler together, and I am SURE now that I am completely over him, out of love, he's a jerk, I honestly feel there is no hope for him. I have a college-education, a great career to fall-back on, and live in one of the most booming areas of the country. We are about to move to a new place, in 1-2 months I will start looking for a job, it shouldn't take very long, I also have a fairly good "nest" egg, and a bit more to come, that I have now decided to tell him it hasn't come through, because now that he know's I'm getting extra money, he's SPENDING extra! I swear it's not by accident! He doesn't wan't me to leave him, etc., he's a very insecure, woman-hating, red-neckish boy in a man's body! I really can't stand to be in the same room as him, and he has an on and off problem with substances, I'm through. But, the number one concern of course is our child, I will not accept nor will I need any child-support from him, I just wan't him to leave us alone, except for perhaps the occasional, prior-arranged visit in MY home with ME there w/our son, he cannot be trusted to take him anywhere as he abuses substances, and you never know when he is, I WILL NOT take that chance, beside's he can't deal with him for more than an hour anyway's! :) WHAT do I do? I do not wan't to involve Attorney's or the court's, I'm confident I will win, as he has a criminal-record, warrant's and abuses substance's, however I DO NOT wan't to go through it, could I just hold his warrant's over his head? I honestly am fearful about how to get him out of our place and living on his own, he's never phsyically touched me, however I do feel the potential threat from him, he's very unstable and his behavior is oftentime's erratic. I can feel his animosity, anger, etc. toward's me so much lately because he really know's now that I am almost to the end of my rope with him, instead of trying to change he's just gotten nastier, and nastier and even harder to deal with. What should I do?
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