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I am a mess. For 3 years I raised mny grandson. he was my heart and soul.
My son's ex left the baby for an internet boyfriend, and my son went off the deep end, drugs, partying, bitter.
I took over and loved, and nutured this child as if he was my own.
I didn't protect myself, thought she would never return, well she did and has been awarded custody, and has removed him to another state. She does not acknowledge me or answer e-mails, gifts or letters.
I sleep wioth his balnket, can't bear to be around other people who have children, too many triggers.
It has been 6 months,and I am getting worse. I am not functing, working, or eating or sleeping.
Where do I fit in? He has "new" grandparents now, and calls this boyfriend daddy.
My son has been trying to go back to court, and has been sober and working hard.Attorneys are draining every penny we have, so even if he is awarded visitaion HE has to fly to get the child and it requires 3 roundtrip tickets for that one visit.
Christmas is here, and I am so sad. I have lost all hope and faith. Will he ever remeber me? My son never bonded with him, they were both 18 when the baby was born. They lived with me until the divorce and the baby continued for the next 3 years in my home.
I feel like I have nowhere to turn, and life has lost all meaning.
I am resentful of my son, but still love him. Initially he had full custody so I never thougth once that I had to have any legal rights to the child, I just thought I would help out until he was able to get his life together and then I would live nearby and just be a grandma, but he gave up his rights (FULL CUSTODY!!!!!!) ( this was before he became sober and a mature adult) now he is in another custody battle and since the child is out of state the reality is very slim he will have anything awarded but visiation.
How do you go from being fulltime parent, to seeing the child once or twice a year?
I feel like have been robbbed! I have nowhere to turn.
Are there any grandparents who hearts are broken because of simaliar issues???
Any help would be appreciated ~
My son's ex left the baby for an internet boyfriend, and my son went off the deep end, drugs, partying, bitter.
I took over and loved, and nutured this child as if he was my own.
I didn't protect myself, thought she would never return, well she did and has been awarded custody, and has removed him to another state. She does not acknowledge me or answer e-mails, gifts or letters.
I sleep wioth his balnket, can't bear to be around other people who have children, too many triggers.
It has been 6 months,and I am getting worse. I am not functing, working, or eating or sleeping.
Where do I fit in? He has "new" grandparents now, and calls this boyfriend daddy.
My son has been trying to go back to court, and has been sober and working hard.Attorneys are draining every penny we have, so even if he is awarded visitaion HE has to fly to get the child and it requires 3 roundtrip tickets for that one visit.
Christmas is here, and I am so sad. I have lost all hope and faith. Will he ever remeber me? My son never bonded with him, they were both 18 when the baby was born. They lived with me until the divorce and the baby continued for the next 3 years in my home.
I feel like I have nowhere to turn, and life has lost all meaning.
I am resentful of my son, but still love him. Initially he had full custody so I never thougth once that I had to have any legal rights to the child, I just thought I would help out until he was able to get his life together and then I would live nearby and just be a grandma, but he gave up his rights (FULL CUSTODY!!!!!!) ( this was before he became sober and a mature adult) now he is in another custody battle and since the child is out of state the reality is very slim he will have anything awarded but visiation.
How do you go from being fulltime parent, to seeing the child once or twice a year?
I feel like have been robbbed! I have nowhere to turn.
Are there any grandparents who hearts are broken because of simaliar issues???
Any help would be appreciated ~
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So, how will you go on? There's a site you can look into. It's paawareness.org The content is about parental alienation and you certainly have been the child's mother in my opinion. It's only icing on the cake that you're the grandmother, too.
But, on this site, they have very creative ideas on communicating with a child who has been removed maliciously like that. For instance, communicating by telling the child stories about your times together, making a photo book of your friends and family. Singing a song, making a tape, enticing familiar smells by spraying the card with your perfume, etc. (That's if this mother will allow them to be received.)
Other than that, I know the longing in your heart and it's grieving a loss with a hollow feeling all the time. So, write letters and keep them at your house for the time when you can give them to him.
Legally, you AND your son have rights of visitation, but that requires that you have representation.
You are in my prayers and I hope that you can sort this out. I just don't understand how parents can come and go in their child's life on a whim.
And your son needs to tow the line as far as his own life is concerned. The courts are going to be brutal to him and substance abuse will be brought up every time. So, he better get documentation that he's clean and ready for healthy parenting even if it starts with visitation.
Hugs to you. RB