My fiance has 2 children with different mothers. He pays child support for both of them and is a good father. One son, he's 7, spends summers here with us, and the other son, he's 2, spends weekends with us. The ex wife and I get along just fine and there is a parenting agreement, and both parents are content with the situation. The 2 year olds mother is DRIVING ME CRAZY!! She complains that my fiance doesn't spend enough time with his son, but at any time she feels like, she cuts his time short. My fiance was the one who went to CSED, not her. He is also pursuing some kind of legal visitation schedule so that this woman will stop manipulating him by using their son as bait. But because she is the 'mommy' there is nothing we can do. This woman has 3 kids with 3 fathers, is pregnant again, and has had more than 5 or 6 pregnacies. Her family keeps paying for her rent, vehicle, etc. etc. Supposedly she is bipolar, but she won't take her meds because she can't afford it. She also won't take her b/c because she can't afford it. But she seems to afford child after child, and relies on other people to pay for her and her children. She constantly vents online about us and insults us, then apologizes later and wants us to all be friends. She is raising her children to believe that throwing tantrums and not being responsible is ok. I feel like I am being punished by her because I do not have children. I never wanted to be in her situation, so I have never been pregnant. Is it really so wrong to care about the welfare of a child when you are childless? Because it seems that no matter what I do, I am the bad person because I don't have children of my own. I understand I that I don't know anything about the bond between a mother and child, but why is it so wrong for me to care when I have no biological ties? Am I the only one out there? I need someone to talk to so badly. I plan on seeking therapy if my health benefits will cover it, but I feel like I am sinking fast.
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