Question?

What schedule would work best for you?
Why couldn't you see them two nights a week and every other weekend, and see liberal visitation?

If you all got to court...........the kids will be dragged into it.........and can you see a mediator?

My STBX has liberal visitation, and even though he has continously abused and now followd separation agreement, will talk to Judge on this during final divorce process, and might get visitation changed then.

he thinks I'm being agreeable, but really am not......biding my time.

Just be careful you do not lose any groundwork you already have.

Have you told her what you would like to have? Maybe you could work out having them for the summers months? Or maybe spliting the summers? I would strongly suggest that whatever the decision you make sure that it is as well what you would like and that it is in the degree in black and white. When you go to court the judge will usually look at what you have worked out and since this is uncontested he will just go through asking the questions of what you both agreed to and go from there. Good Luck to you!

Well, I have been down that road and I am the mother, the last time I went to get help on getting more visitation with my kids in the summertime, I was told I was an unfit mother and I was treated like I was in the wrong. I have an ex that likes to have everything his way so he can turn my kids into self-centered kids and hate me because I am not fit to bring them up. She has to go what is in the court order and the guidelines if she don't she will be in comtempted of court and she can get into trouble. Just make sure you write everything down when you get into a disagreement with her and if she says oh I didn't say that you have it in your papers.

what type of custody,
would you have..look at definations of custody arrangement...Who has Legal custoday

The visitation plan you describe is actually a common one, even if you don't really like it. What did you have in mind? Keep in mind that if your kids are school age they have their own lives. Do you live close enough to take them to school or any weekend activities they may have?

I'm a big advocate for shared custody because I feel like its what is fair to everyone. I'm starting to rethink my schedule as my son is now 5 and in school, but there are others ways to share. Lots here to think about. I do not know how old the children are or if you all will be living close to each other. Some people I know w/ older children share custody by week on week off. I know some children who CHOSE that schedule because they didn't want to be away from one parent too long. I think that is too long for my child as he is younger. Find out about the custody definitions in your state. In my state Joint is given if both parents are good people. But then there is Shared or Physical. 90 overnights or more is Shared. Shared often means lower child support. I'm not saying go for shared just to lower child support but sometimes its hard to pay child support and still have a good house for your kids when they are with you. Who wants to visit dad when you don't even have a room of your own, etc..,? That is something my new DH went through. Anyway...think about what she is offering you because it will set a precedent. Come up with some suggestions of your own. DO NOT let her make all the decisions because down the road she will try to take control of everything. I could be wrong, she could be a totally nice and fair person, but just sharing my experiences. You need to stand up for what you really want. I have seen many dad's let the mom make all the decisions and later kick themselves. I guess it also depends on what kind of relationship you want with your kids and how involved you have always been. I'm assuming you are a very involved, loving dad that's always been there. Geez, I know this is getting long...I'll send you a message also as I could go all day on this one!