HAVE THE CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT BUREAU HELP YOU.

it is a FEDERAL, not state, but FEDERAL law that when support is 4 weeks OR $500 behind, whichever comes first then there is to be a show cause hearing. it is also a law in most states, not sure if that is fedreal or not, that cs is garnished. get your local cs office to do their job! if u have his ss# it will help, if he has ever paid cs they should have the ss# they can track him down. stay in their ass and they will stay in his. putting him in jail will not get you cs BUT it will put a fire under his butt showing him he either pays or goes to jail. my daughter has her ex jailed about every 5 month. he gets behind, she gets a show cause, he makes up lame excuses, judge throws him in jail until someone pays what is owed in cs. he is released, he makes a couple of payments then cycle starts again. he has a new job every few months. the judge has never cut him any slack because he wont hold a job and judge takes no excuse for not paying cs, she tells him the only excuse for not paying is dead or dying :)

i am kind of on the other end of this problem. my soon to be husband is pretty behind on his cs and he is trying to pay his support and on his arrears. we are right now but we are having a horrible time. We are taking care of two of his other children plus the one we have together and we are sinking badly trying to make ends meet. He recieves nothing for the two we have and we probably won't for a long time. If she went after John hard about that support when he was behind he would have lost his other children so, good or bad let me know what you guys think about this. I think it is a bad cycle making it extremely hard to take care of both families and e are driving cars thatr we are praying will make it for a while longer and she is getting new cars. i feel like her family is getting everything and ours are suffering. Should i feel that way. I don't want to feel like that.
please don't think i'm selfish or jealous or anything, but i just wish that the kids could have the same opportunities and i dont think thats happening

did you say that you and your husband are taking care of two of his kids and not getting cs for them? why not? make her pay! do not put it off! you should also go to judge and show your expenses and explain the situation and see if cs can be lowered temp. to help you get caught up. can husband find a higher paying job? i know its hard, i have been on both ends as well. make sure you get cs on the two you are taking care of, it is not fair.

the best thing for you to do is figure your budget not including cs. if you get it, it is a bonus prize. yes if he goes his 30 days and you report they send out notice and after 60 or 90 days they file for contempt. it took my ex 4 hearings before he was found in contempt. he was sentenced to 41 days in jail unless he paid. he now has his 2nd warrant out and i am just glad he is staying away for my daughters mental well being. this has been going on for 5 years now. i NEVER count on cs. if i get it great i do some extras but if they do not want to pay they find a way. you will get tax returns IF he files hi taxes. once he is so much behind they will suspend his drivers license and put it on his credit report ect. if he is entitled to an inheritance that will eventually be "garnished" or any lump some of money the courts know about. unemployment will be garnished weather he likes it or not. in the end just do not count on it. consider it extra.

I agree that child support is a bonus...budget without it...but take his ass to court when he does not pay...In my state, you just go in and file a motion...the judge hears the motion, even if it is to tell the person to get a job and pay, at least there is a record of it...Good luck

thanks a lot! i finally found out where he is now working, he's out of state, and has a really really good job. That's prob. the reason he didn't tell me about it. He's so selfish. anyway thanks for everything!

I went through the same thing with my 13 y/o son's father. He kept quitting his jobs for about ten years. He has been paying (plus arrearages) for about two years now. He is still 30K behind. What I'm going through now is...My mom has my kids (I am bipolar and not well regulated yet). The state (not my Mom) came after for me for child support. My disability is 1,500 a month and my cs obligation is for $639. I am going to be homeless. The kids already get $750 month from my social security. I really don't know what to do. It is strange to be on the other end of it now, too. I wish you luck. Yes, child support is always a bonus. You can never count on having it. Even if he had the best of intentions, people are always getting laid off and there are a lot of work slowdowns. Good luck.

This has been my experience with child support and the system...if they do not want to pay and are willing to work hard at not paying, they won't and no agency will make them.
Like others have said, budget without the cs included.
I don't mean to say that CSE should not be contacted and that you should not give them hell if you need to, I just know from my experience that they are never nearly as concerned about it as you are. Unless you started writing the governor, then they tend to pay more attention. It is a full time job in itself staying on them.