I have been separated for 6 months and I have a 11 month old girl. He is completely unable to care for her and has never cared for her longer than a 15 minute period of time. He moved 3 hours away and has seen her a total of 6 times no with only two of those times longer than 3 hours worth of visiting. This last time I brought her to see him (and stayed) and again he made other plans that turned our 2 night visit into 2 or 3 hour periods of visiting. He is now moving 3 hours even farther. He says when she is older he will take her for weekends and breaks. He has never cared for her in her life. How can he have the right to have her for a weekend. I fear for her safety. He can play with her and entertain her, but doesn't know anything about her needs, wants, or daily routine. I just don't know what to do and I feel ill thinking that he has a right to take her when he only cares about himself and even when he tries to focus on her he can't he is highly ADHD and literally will space out and forget about her safety if the TV is on or others are present of just for no reason. Not to mention that fact that I just can't deal with not having her with me. I don't ever leave her (except to work) and then she is with my mother the only other person I let care for her. Does him moving effect anything? Can I just move too? Does his lack of time now effect his visitation later? And by the way he almost always schedules his visits around other things that he needs or just wants to do in the area (like she is a stop on the trip). Does the fact that he hasn't cared for her since she was 4 months (and really not before either) effect anything? ADHD? Please just any input. I an not a hateful person I have no problem with him seeing her and his family, and we are still friends I just can't give her to them to care for.
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