Conquering your fears should be a part of your therapy.
Most folks here can only tell you that you should do and say what your attorney says. It's in her hands now.

I would trust your attorney, sounds like very much in your favor. He's trying to intimidate you and make things worse. Stay strong!

I agree with OC and Cypher... when they no longer have control intimidation is their next step in many cases. Everything will probably work out just fine but I understand the worry. GL hon and as Cypher said - stay strong

My ex had physical custody of our 2 sons and tried to paint me as an unfit mother. I now have physical custody of them... So it obviously didn't work.

Don't *rely* on mediation. It's great if you and your ex will compromise, but it doesn't sound like that's the case.

From my own experience, my ex and I spent hours in mediation and got few things agreed to (nothing big, like custody). A couple weeks later the papers were drawn up and ready to sign and he refused... He said *I* was trying to manipulate *him*... Somehow. Oh well.

Point is, sometimes it's hard to relax when your children are involved, but if you know you have a good lawyer, rely her to guide you through this.

I thought I had a good lawyer and she totally screwed me over. My ex uses my depression bi-polar disorder against me and he got custody of our son. I only get supervised visitations. My lawyer requested a 730 evaluation that made me end up looking like a monster. Now I have even less time with my son than before the evaluation and it was my lawyers idea. I can't take my son anywhere anymore or even have him at my home. I am so angry and sad about not getting to see my son. I cry everyday. My ex has been so mean through all of this saying the most horrible things he can about me. And the worst part is everyone believes him and not me. I am a good Mother and I love my son more than anything. I would never hurt him. I was a stay at home Mom until the separation. I raised my son completely on my own while my husband was at work and he is the most wonderful loving boy anyone could ever hope for and now I hardly get to see him. It is so unfair. I wish you the best of luck in your battle. Just be careful and don't trust anyone. I should never have trusted my lawyer. I hope your story turns out much better than mine. I will pray for you.