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Advice on visitation

deleted_user
deleted_user
My daughters father has been paying child support now since January 07. My daughter is five years old and hasnt seen him in about three or more years. He hasn't made any attempt to see her since he has been paying and he has visitation rights through the courts. I'm not sure how to proceed on this issue because at this point I want the court ordered visitation lowered. He is entitled to currently about 6 weeks during the summer and even though he didnt do it this past summer Im nervous about it in the future. I have no clue where he lives or who he resides with. I dont know where he would leave her during the day when hes at work and think she would go through serious culture shock being with him for that long. I have no problem with him seeing her but for that long is questionable. I called my child support office today and they said there is nothing they can do since there is a court order for his visitation. Any advice on how I should proceed?
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you want a formal order changing the visitation order you'll have to petition the court.
Although you can do this without an attorney unless you have good reading and comprehension skills its best left to them.
The attorney won't be able to do much without locating him however so perhaps that should be your first priority.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i agree with making a petition to the courts to change the visitation. tell them what you posted her. keep documentation or a journal of this stuff. i did and i brought my concerns to the court. it's your job to keep your child safe. her father is not involved in her life, you are. your the "better" parent here and have every right to know where your child goes when he visits her. you can change the visitation order to your and your childs benefit by knowing where he lives, getting it in writing where hes taking her for an extended period of times. hey what about your childs opinion? did you even ask?
Thriver
Thriver
Just know that if you do this he could interpret it as an offensive move. How about trying to determine where he is? Is there anything in the settlement which defines any parameters on the visitation, such as SO's, sleeping arrangements, how far in advance the arrangements have to be made?
Ask your attorney whether, if he asks for visitation all of a sudden, whether you would then have time to put some stipulations on it.
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