Which has been worse for you? I think the emotional is the most I've dealt with, with only a few cases of the physical. However, it's like the emotional abuse has been buried so deep, that now I'm in therapy to learn how to live happily. I'm finding it incredibly hard to change my belief system...especially the part about me being worth enough to live. It's like, the physical abuse usually fades with time (unless it's so severe that you have scarring etc.) . The bruises and burns fade, the broken bones mend. But the whole whittling down of your self worth ...like when someone makes it obvious that they are happy you are "dead" to them... or when your father tells you you should've gotten an A++ cuz one plus wasn't enough...or when someone makes you feel fat and ugly simply because you don't have muscle tone. The whole getting it out of your mind that all men are asshole and will fuck you over and leave you cuz you're not worth anything...it's very hard to get over. Is the hardcore physical abuse as effective at drilling those self-defeating beliefs and feelings into someone or is the emotional abuse worse?
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