My H told me yesterday that he can't be with me anymore. On one hand I feel relieved because I at least have an idea as to where my life is headed, but at the same time I'm devastated. He said that he will always love me deeply and care about me, and that he always wants to be my friend because I'm the best friend he ever had. I feel like if I can't have all of him I at least want part of him. I feel the same way. He is my best friend in the whole world. He says that in time we can hang out and talk on the phone. He says he can't be married to me and look at me as his wife without thinking of what happened. Am I naive to think that if we're friends something will spark inside of him down the road and we will get back together? We haven't really talked of divorce because first of all we can't afford it, and second he says it's so permanent. This makes me believe that if I give him time and be friends he will be reminded of the way it used to be and not be able to be without me. I'm hopeful and scared at the same time. I think that maybe if I move on, and we still are friends, he will be able to see the things that he fell in love with in the first place and realize that this mistake is not who I am. I want him to look at me and instead of seeing a woman who hurt him, see a woman who loves him deeply and would never do anything again to hurt him the way that I've hurt him now. I want him to see a woman who would do anything in the world to make him happy. Anyone have comments or advice?
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