Cheaters Anonymous Community Group
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Hi :
A friend made a pass at me. He is married, I am in a partnership, but never took vows. In short. I lived far across the ocean from my friend who made the pass, but we had an affair on the internet.
Now I just saw him for the first time and we reconnected. We were not alone and now we are talking about meeting alone. Mostly I want to put closure to the relationship, but parts of me fear I might fall into the physical with him and I think that he wants that. Part of me really wants that, but another part of me wants to make a strong resolve to stand in my power and tell him why I would never pick him as a partner. I want to talk to someone with experience because part of me feels I could be asking for trouble, but another part of me wants to say no, i care about you, i care about the future of your wife and son and infidelity could break your family.
help me !
A friend made a pass at me. He is married, I am in a partnership, but never took vows. In short. I lived far across the ocean from my friend who made the pass, but we had an affair on the internet.
Now I just saw him for the first time and we reconnected. We were not alone and now we are talking about meeting alone. Mostly I want to put closure to the relationship, but parts of me fear I might fall into the physical with him and I think that he wants that. Part of me really wants that, but another part of me wants to make a strong resolve to stand in my power and tell him why I would never pick him as a partner. I want to talk to someone with experience because part of me feels I could be asking for trouble, but another part of me wants to say no, i care about you, i care about the future of your wife and son and infidelity could break your family.
help me !
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Good luck, may your life not blow the f#$! up like some of ours has.
Just break all contact. Just do it now before anything more can happen. It'll be sooooo much easier now than later.
Figure out what is leading to you reaching out to someone other than your partner. BREAK ALL CONTACT WITH THIS OTHER PERSON.....
Just start opening up to your partner again.... Indulge in their hugs and kisses. Just lounge together and talk about whatever. Ask each other how are you.... Do simple little things while you figure out what's causing you to feel disconnected.
I would do my best to stay as far away from him as possible. Closure? He's married...there's your closure.
Also I don't know if this went through your mind...the whole "get it out of my system mentality"...like others said when you start you think you can stop but this THING takes control of you...you become another person, and when you look in the mirror you will NOT like what you see.
I agree with everyone else...cut off contact now and avoid the hurt, use this forum if you need to as an outlet to work out your feelings and talk to people who won't judge you for having those thoughts and urges.
stay away or you will regret it like the rest of us.