I am a happily divorced woman with a great family, great friends, a good job and life. I was introduced to a man, by very good friends who know both of us well, who was supposedly leaving his very unhappy marriage of long duration. There was an immediate connection between us. We began dating (as I thought he would be soon divorced) and shortly after I discovered he has no intentions of leaving his marriage. They live in separate rooms at home, and do not sleep together, or travel or socialize together at all unless it involves their college age children. I have ended this relationship twice now but we always gravitate back to one another, going on 2 years shortly. Our compatibility is incredible, our laughter,love and friendship genuine, and I find myself asking why does he have to be the one? Why can't I break free of this? I know this sounds stupid. I do not want to be with a married man. I feel stupid weak guilty all the time, even tho I am not the one doing the cheating. This is not a one-night stand, as it is nearly 2 years now. I never cheated in my marriage, but my ex husband did. The whole thing is making me queasy. I do not like being the OW and I never wanted to be that. Maybe I am asking too much, I am looking for something to make me strong enough to break away from this person. Do I need a 12 step program? Any and all input is greatly appreciated as I am hurting so much right now. If you think I am not in the right place on this site, please let me know. Ihope I have not offended anyone here. Many thanks to all.
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