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I am SO upset right now...

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I just got home and my Dad called me. My Husband called him to tell him to tell me to stop e-mailing him. Also can I CONTACT HIM to find out when he can come get his stuff. Ok so DON'T contact him but CONTACT him??? I am so confused...WHY does he keep calling my parents?? My Dad ended up hanging up on him. how can a man who i have been with for over 10 years hate me like this in a matter of DAYS? I am so hurt right now, I want to just roll up in a ball and die. I guess I thought I knew him but maybe I don't at all...is this the fog? Please tell me it is! I know his girlfriend is behind all of this, reading his e-mails and probably threatening him or something. Oh sorry I am causing problems in your relationship! She had no problem coming into ours!!! Why did he keep me in the picture? Why did he 2 days before I found out about the affair say he loved me? He calls with a blocked ot private number too so no one can contact him. I have a damn tax stimulus check I need the money from and it will be in both of our names so what am I supposed to do with that now??? Why is this happening? Why is he doing this to me???
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The sooner this guy is out of your life, the sooner you can start going through the cycle of grief. Lossing anyone, regardless of the reason is almost like someone important dying. In your case, I think this guy sounds really really confused and distructive. Big Hugs! We're all here if you need to vent like tonight. What he's doing is so wrong! Just wanted to let you know we care about you, even if we're just names on CA.
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May I suggest a book that will empower you. Love must be Tough by James Dobson. Accepting the situation is a start. God has a plan and you have no control of that. You only can control what you do.... I agree with pixie the whole ordeal is like a death. The stages of emotions are similar let yourself face each head on. Be good to yourself, do special things for yourself. reach out to friends and take them up on all their offers. The people who care about you will want to walk beside you through all of this. Tell them that you need them and need to be with them. I am so sorry for this misery. I know how bad this hurts. God Bless You!
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I just can't figure out how a man who said he loves me can just do a 180 and want me out of his life. I let him know he needs to get his stuff because I am moving and he freaks out, says he will find me wherever I go. Every day it is something different, he is afraid of not having me but he wants me to leave him alone. He was found out and now he doesn't know what to do. I told him I wanted him out of my life and he is now like "you want me out of your life so get out of mine..." Like a child. He does not know how to use a computer and he has never been responsible for paying bills and all of that so now it looks like he is giving her all access to his bank accounts and having her do everything for him now and to me that is a HUGE mistake to give a person you do not know very well access to your money, your accounts and possibly your social security number. I guess this is where karma may bite him in his ass. I am just tired of the games, him changing his address to his work address, blocking his cell calls.
I am tired of feeling REJECTION from a man I spent over 10 years with, supported completely. I know we do not need to be together, we have been slowly breaking up for about 2 years but we also have been together until this February but we still talked daily. I am upset today and I just hate what the next days will bring.
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