Because my AP was local and knew many of the same people I did, and because news of our affair was broadcast widely, I often unexpectedly run into people who know about it.
I decided early in my recovery not to talk about my affair with anyone but four old friends, so I have ignored rude comments a few times and politely declined to give any details to well-meaning people who know both AP and me a few times. I did it as a boundary to protect my mental health, to avoid encouraging any further contact from AP's wife, and because it's my nature to be extremely private.
Most of the time, people don't ask about the affair but act awkwardly and/or surprised to see me with my BS because rumors were that AP abandoned his family to run off with me. It has been a struggle for me to appear normal, but I have been increasingly showing up and interacting with people who know. I still avoid places where I know AP or his BS will be (and I wish they did the same), and I changed my kids' schools to help with that.
Does anyone run into acquaintances who bring up the affair? How do you handle it?
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