I posted this on Rebuild Marriage but I also wanted input from the cheaters point of view. I am the betrayed person and we are trying to rebuild our marriage after a long term affair. I am in a personal struggle between "letting it go" and gaining " a sense of control". I find myself quite often wishing my H would say or do something and then having some discussion about whatever it is I am needing from him. He comes through but I find the process very unsatisfying because: 1.) I had to point out the problem / feeling because he did not notice on his own. 2). I generated the solution to the problem / feeling Lately I find myself saying; "let it go" thereby, allowing things to be whatever they are, because the other process of control is so unsatisfying. It reminds me of dog training; "sit boy, sit. Good boy". What do you think; is it time for me to "let go" or should I keep providing the test and the answers to this old dog? Let me know your thoughts.
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