I am new here and am not asking for sympathy or trying to excuse what I did...yes, I was the cheater, and had an on and off relationship for close to six years. The dishonesty and leading a "seperate" life took their toll and I "confessed". This all occurred about seven or eight years ago but the pain, for both, continues. He, with the betrayal, me with the feelings of low self worth and the what the hell was I thinking? Does anyone here have any thoughts on how to move forward positively for both of us? He still experiences the grief of having lost the wife that he had on a pedestal, I feel the pain and grief of being the one to cause so much pain and heartache to the one man that I have ever truly loved. He is not receptive to going for any counseling so that is not an avenue to pursue. If I could turn back the clock and change all of this you do not know how quickly I would seize that opportunity. I think that all the years of low self esteem and needing attention drove me to the affair, but who knows? Any advice that anyone in this position can offer is most welcome.
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