Hi everyone...I'm writing this to you because I respect many of your opinions and I have a situation on my hands right now that I am entirely unsure of how to handle. If anyone has read any of my posts before you will know that I had an affair and that my H is very broken up about it and does not love me anymore and intends to leave me. That's the basic stuff. At this point my H is drinking heavily and acting out in very unsettling ways. He has put the kids in potentially dangerous situations. He freaked out my sister the other night crying to her asking her to hold him and telling her he was going to blow his brains out. He won't come to me and I understand why but he is starting to act very irrationally. He drank so much about a month ago and took pills that he passed out on our front yard and the neighbors fearing the worst called an ambulance. When I arrived at the hospital his BAC was incredibly high and his eyes were crazed. He had threatened the ambulance personnel with violence and threatened his life. They had him in restraints and he was trying to get me to go buy a knife so I could cut him out of them. He doesn't want to talk to me about this stuff and he doesn't want to get help. He says counselling might help but then he doesn't want to go and I can't make him go. I am fearing that he is experiencing traumatic grief or something similar like PTSD. I personally struggle with mental illness and the things he is doing seem to correspond to some of my personal issues. I have never treated him with contempt. I have only ever apologized ans asked for his forgiveness. I am not writing this with the tone of being angry with him, rather I am extremely concerned. I am wondering if the betrayeds or even the cheats have any experience with this kind of reaction either first had or from their spouse. I am wondering if the bets have any advice on how I can reach out to him without him pulling away. I am honestly scared for him. I am afraid to leave the kids with him. I want to help him so bad. I feel even more guilty now than ever but I never could have imagined that what I did would cause this to happen. Please don't feel the need to answer me with ridicule, I've been through that, I do it to myself every day, I get it. I fucked up but I am trying my damndest to help him and I can't and I don't know what to do. Thanks for your insight.
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