I took my 2 year old son with spastic quad CP over to my new sister in laws house to babysit her 1 1/2 year old little boy who is a typically developing child. Dominic is unable to sit unassisted, and he can not stand or walk either. He seemed to be having a great time in the beginning, but as the time wore on, he seemed to become withdrawn and very interested. This was the very first time he had any longterm interaction with a typically developing child. I left there and cried all the way home. I was feeling so bad for him because I was thinking that the reason he wasn't acting interested in playing or engaging with this other little one was because he wanted to play and wished he could get up and run and jump around like my nephew could. My mom was telling me, in her opinion, Dominic wasn't upset about that. She believes that a child who is like Dominic (never able to walk or sit) doesn't realize that he can't do those things. That feeling sad about that wasn't the problem. I guess what I am trying to ask is do you believe that it is my own sadness and regret for my angel's limitations that I am feeling?? Has anyone else felt anything like this? How can I learn to either deal with my own issues regarding his limits? I had never really observed him and a typically developing toddler together before. It was a heartache I never prepared myself for and has really hit me hard. I don't want to seem ridiculous, I just need to hear from some others who might be able to help me get over this myself or address it with my son. Do you think it's just me?
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