Hello everyone. This is my first post, however, I have to say that I have read these posts for so many years - I almost feel like I know some of you. So here goes...My Mom is 89, dementia, diabetic, in a care home, lived with me and my family for several years. I bring my Mom home 2 days a week. She has recently gone on insulin once a day at bedtime (approximately 3 months ago). Her sugars have been high for quite a few years, despite good diet, moderate exercise, frequent consult with an endocrinologist and family dr etc. Now she is having to take insulin twice a day - which of course is hard on her - she still insists that they shouldn't give her shots - she tells nurses she only takes pills for her diabetes. She has recently started telling staff that she is allergic to just about every food they present her with. She is not eating much (is tiny to begin with). I send up cheese snacks, yogurt, some fruit and some biscuits - no sugar added, but of course carbs nonetheless. She is now eating quite a few biscuits. It seems like the highlight of her life now is food when I bring her home. She likes most things I cook and she will eat quite a bit. I am torn between letting her eat more than she should (we're not talking plates of pasta here - but a reasonable amount) or restricting her. Same for the biscuits she eats (at the care home). Am I a bad daughter to let her eat them? Or would I be a bad daughter to take yet one more thing away from her? Is it more important to let her have some snacks and have a little bit of happiness - I feel like it is, but then I am overwhelmed with guilt. I hate having to make this decision for someone else's life, but I'm the only one to do it. I know that I have and am doing everything I can for my Mom - but this one has me questioning what the right answer is. Thoughts? I know this seems like a really minor issue, but there have been so many for so long...sometimes I feel stuck. Thanks for listening.
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