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Waiting Game

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deleted_user
Goodmorning.. I was sitting here this morning rereading some of the posts.. I got to thinking about how so many of us are waiting... WAITING for something to happen..We are caring for people with a terminal illness.. We are caring for elderly or loved ones that may soon be gone.. it's a sad job.. it's a waiting game.. not a game at all but a huge pressure.. We wake up each day with the thought that someones life is in our hands. Will it be TODAY.. will I be ready for any emergency that comes up? It's a huge responsibility..I want to take this time to say thanks for having you a few key clicks away so that I am not feeling so alone.. depression can come to a caregiver at anytime.. Yesterday it started to roar it's ugly head for me.. but after a few conversations with a few of you it started to ebb.. i found myself laughing,, laughing at silly things but it defused the depression.Thanks gang.. I know it will happen again but I know where to come when it does.. Love D
deleted_user
deleted_user
What a lovely sentiment. It's a huge responsibility to try to make the loved one as comfortable as possible, to try to make the day go well, to stay positive and patient. It does help to have our frustrations, fears and worries expressed by others. It reaffirms that we aren't bad people when we fall short of our own expectations and that we are not alone.
mechellebelle
mechellebelle
yes, I agree.
and have you ever noticed how complicated and long our initial discussion posts are? our lives are so complicated we have to write a small book to explain each situation.
it's not like that on other boards.

I don't know about ya'll, but I'm WAITING for my life to get much much simpler.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, there is always waiting, waiting, waiting.. What can I do but wait. I try not to focus on it, but rather on the day at hand or the moment at hand. The waiting kills me!
deleted_user
deleted_user
WAITING ... it's so hard ... will it be today, next week, 10 years from now, 20 years from now? Will they outlive me? Will I ever have a chance to enjoy my life? Am I being selfish? I try very hard to enjoy the "journey" and not focus on the "station," but often the daily tasks get in the way of appreciating the moment.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Waiting really bites, especially when patience isnt a virtue, I have found I can be extemely patient when caregiving, but not with the time waiting for answers I cant count the times I have asked God for more patience. I think it does in time come, but at other times It pisses me off to wait:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm still waiting for Godot, or Guffman, whomever arrives first...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well Im waiting for Dealie who wears green to get back to earth Love D
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