Caregivers Support Group
A voluntary caregiver is a spouse, relative, friend or neighbor of a disabled person or child who assists with activities of daily living and assists those unable to fully take care of themselves. The challenges of a caregiver are unique and sometimes it's hard to find people to talk to who know what you're going through. Join the conversation and find others who...
Some days, I just get so frustrated and tired of caregiving, then I beat myself up for feeling that way. I get angry and then feel bad about that too. I keep trying to remember; this is my mother, she changed my diapers, so now I'm going to change her; I was hard-headed, so now she can't help that this disease is making her that way; She would talk to me, and I would shut her out, so now she shuts me out - not deliberately, but due to this sickness; I couldn't do many things I wanted, so now that hasn't changed much. I mean, some days, that 15 lb. potty chair bucket gets heavy and I feel like I may dump it on the way to the bathroom, or I talk and I talk and I talk to her, and she glares at the television and I'm not in the room. She snaps at me over nothing, or she hurts my son's feelings, and it's not her, it's just not her. I have to remind myself it's this d*** illness making her this way. It's taking her life force, she's just a shell of who she was. I'm sorry, I'm just dealing with a lot of negative feelings at the moment and needed to say this.
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YOUR RIGHT.. A,D Is one of the hardest of all things to deal with.. Fear frustration anger and human emotions all put together.. It's hard on everyone.. but most of all on the caregiver who carrys GUILT .. Guilt for just being human.IT has to be the hardest job in the world..Love D
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yes, I do believe dealing with someone 24/7 with A.D.IS the hardest job in the world - this work is simply not seen as to just how hard it is to the outside world is it....I have not been in this position but I helped my mother care for my father with AD and I saw what she went through - I just so admire you, I really do, you deserve a HUUUUGGGGGGG medal and a just as HUUUUGGGGGGE hug.....Cathrynn XX
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You are doing a wonderful service and although you might not see it now, your mother is grateful for your acts of kindness. I have the same feelings about my mother and the same guilt for feeling that way. You are not alone and we will always be here to support your efforts. God Bless you for the service you are providing.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
